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<blockquote data-quote="Kathy813" data-source="post: 522575" data-attributes="member: 1967"><p>Nancy, my difficult child was disappointed to hear that easy child did not come back with us so she could see easy child's new car. So I showed her the model that easy child bought on the computer and difficult child wistfully said what a beautiful car it was and how she would never have anything like that. When I told her that easy child had decided to buy the extended warranty, difficult child commented that easy child always was the responsible one.</p><p></p><p>So, yes, I think that our difficult child's do see what our easy child's are accomplishing. Unfortunately, I think it just demoralizes them and they think that they can't be like them and then they go even more downhill. </p><p></p><p>I told difficult child that she could have these things someday if she really worked the DBT program. It will take a long while to clean up her credit but that it wasn't impossible. As always, it is really up to her. Janet, it helps when you point out that anyone can change.</p><p></p><p>difficult child asked what we are doing with easy child's car. I told her that we were going to keep it for the meantime as an extra car and that if she does well with the DBT and finds at least a part time job, we would consider letting her have it. Ironically, both easy child and difficult child noted separately that it would be a full circle for difficult child back to the car we bought her when she was 16. Of course, it is 150,000 miles later.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kathy813, post: 522575, member: 1967"] Nancy, my difficult child was disappointed to hear that easy child did not come back with us so she could see easy child's new car. So I showed her the model that easy child bought on the computer and difficult child wistfully said what a beautiful car it was and how she would never have anything like that. When I told her that easy child had decided to buy the extended warranty, difficult child commented that easy child always was the responsible one. So, yes, I think that our difficult child's do see what our easy child's are accomplishing. Unfortunately, I think it just demoralizes them and they think that they can't be like them and then they go even more downhill. I told difficult child that she could have these things someday if she really worked the DBT program. It will take a long while to clean up her credit but that it wasn't impossible. As always, it is really up to her. Janet, it helps when you point out that anyone can change. difficult child asked what we are doing with easy child's car. I told her that we were going to keep it for the meantime as an extra car and that if she does well with the DBT and finds at least a part time job, we would consider letting her have it. Ironically, both easy child and difficult child noted separately that it would be a full circle for difficult child back to the car we bought her when she was 16. Of course, it is 150,000 miles later. [/QUOTE]
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