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<blockquote data-quote="katya02" data-source="post: 354343" data-attributes="member: 2884"><p>I'm embarrassed to say that husband and I went and brought difficult child 2 his pillows. husband wanted to go and see difficult child 2 and be sure he was doing ok after I told him difficult child 2 had sent me the letter about not feeling loved. He loves difficult child 2 (and all the kids) and, although he's always been an alpha male type, with age he's become very sensitive. His family is his life. I think it would kill him to have his son deliberately hurt him and walk away, not to have his son tell him he's gay. </p><p></p><p>I do get the feeling difficult child 2 is terrified of a bad reaction and trying to hurt before he gets hurt. But he's been too successful. I'm trying to shake it off and I know intellectually that I have to let it go, but I am still having a hard time. It's surreal because I'm sitting at home alone today not doing very well and difficult child 2 keeps texting me asking about the cattery, offering to help with a couple of kittens who have problems, encouraging me ... like nothing ever happened. This is the sort of thing my mother and sister have always done, wreaking emotional devastation and then going on as if nothing has happened. It makes me question my sanity. Is it possible that he honestly doesn't know the effect of his words? You would never know, from his behavior last night or his texts today, that he'd sent that letter a few days ago.</p><p></p><p>I should be able to let it go. I have to keep telling myself it's his perceptions, not reality. I have to detach, and I'm trying.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="katya02, post: 354343, member: 2884"] I'm embarrassed to say that husband and I went and brought difficult child 2 his pillows. husband wanted to go and see difficult child 2 and be sure he was doing ok after I told him difficult child 2 had sent me the letter about not feeling loved. He loves difficult child 2 (and all the kids) and, although he's always been an alpha male type, with age he's become very sensitive. His family is his life. I think it would kill him to have his son deliberately hurt him and walk away, not to have his son tell him he's gay. I do get the feeling difficult child 2 is terrified of a bad reaction and trying to hurt before he gets hurt. But he's been too successful. I'm trying to shake it off and I know intellectually that I have to let it go, but I am still having a hard time. It's surreal because I'm sitting at home alone today not doing very well and difficult child 2 keeps texting me asking about the cattery, offering to help with a couple of kittens who have problems, encouraging me ... like nothing ever happened. This is the sort of thing my mother and sister have always done, wreaking emotional devastation and then going on as if nothing has happened. It makes me question my sanity. Is it possible that he honestly doesn't know the effect of his words? You would never know, from his behavior last night or his texts today, that he'd sent that letter a few days ago. I should be able to let it go. I have to keep telling myself it's his perceptions, not reality. I have to detach, and I'm trying. [/QUOTE]
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