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<blockquote data-quote="Steely" data-source="post: 441614" data-attributes="member: 3301"><p>Just wanted to send hugs.........I have absolutely no thoughts or advice as I have not walked in your shoes. </p><p></p><p>But I wanted to share the only perspective I have. Matt has a friend from his program that has said many violent things to his dad and sisters, and they have completed alienated him, their choice. He is SO mentally ill, that it makes me beyond nervous that Matt and him are really good friends - yet - he explains his feelings to Matt so succinctly. He explains the mom who gave him pcp at 4 and sexually abused him - the mom that locked him in a closet for long periods of time - the mom that reaped inordinate amounts of damage on such a young kid.</p><p></p><p>It brings tears to my eyes when Matt explains Mike's life....yet I also know that this kid can be psychotic. He had many psychotic episodes before he went into the program, including killing many animals, and I am sure making threats to his family. I can see why his family does not want any part of him - yet his dad pays a ton for him to stay in the program and to get help until he is 21 - so it is obvious he still cares.</p><p></p><p>I guess his story reminded me of Kangas. I watch it all from far away - so I can remain completely objective. Truthfully my main concern has been that Matt is so close to him - and how will this friendship negatively influence Matt. Yet I can't help but to also see Mike's life from Mike's perspective and it is so heart wrenching. I only know the Mike that always wants to try and talk to me when Matt calls, and how funny he is, and how evident it is that he is dying for love. That is the only side I know - the rest of his life has not been part of my experiences or I know I would feel totally different.</p><p></p><p>Not sure where I am going with all this - except that I know there are not any "right" answers. Everyone has to stay safe - and hopefully somehow Kanga will find a group that she can bond with, find acceptance with, and accept love from - sorta like Mike has found with Matt.</p><p></p><p>Again - sending strength.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Steely, post: 441614, member: 3301"] Just wanted to send hugs.........I have absolutely no thoughts or advice as I have not walked in your shoes. But I wanted to share the only perspective I have. Matt has a friend from his program that has said many violent things to his dad and sisters, and they have completed alienated him, their choice. He is SO mentally ill, that it makes me beyond nervous that Matt and him are really good friends - yet - he explains his feelings to Matt so succinctly. He explains the mom who gave him pcp at 4 and sexually abused him - the mom that locked him in a closet for long periods of time - the mom that reaped inordinate amounts of damage on such a young kid. It brings tears to my eyes when Matt explains Mike's life....yet I also know that this kid can be psychotic. He had many psychotic episodes before he went into the program, including killing many animals, and I am sure making threats to his family. I can see why his family does not want any part of him - yet his dad pays a ton for him to stay in the program and to get help until he is 21 - so it is obvious he still cares. I guess his story reminded me of Kangas. I watch it all from far away - so I can remain completely objective. Truthfully my main concern has been that Matt is so close to him - and how will this friendship negatively influence Matt. Yet I can't help but to also see Mike's life from Mike's perspective and it is so heart wrenching. I only know the Mike that always wants to try and talk to me when Matt calls, and how funny he is, and how evident it is that he is dying for love. That is the only side I know - the rest of his life has not been part of my experiences or I know I would feel totally different. Not sure where I am going with all this - except that I know there are not any "right" answers. Everyone has to stay safe - and hopefully somehow Kanga will find a group that she can bond with, find acceptance with, and accept love from - sorta like Mike has found with Matt. Again - sending strength. [/QUOTE]
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