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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 441716" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Sadly, that happens far more than we often realise. </p><p></p><p>People who show genuine compassion are often ripe for exploitation. And the damage that is done, is to overlay the compassion from then on with a veneer of suspicion.</p><p></p><p>My best friend keeps falling for this sort of thing. She befriended a woman who hurt her badly (and stalked me online rather scarily). My friend finally realised that this woman was deceitful and damaging, and cut off ties. But by then, the woman had inveigled herself in to other friendships and family relationships, and used her knowledge to sabotage my friend's relationships with these people. The woman eventually left town (one step in front of the lynch mob). But even to this day, occasionally my friend will repeat a story to me as fact, that doesn't ring true. "Where did you hear that?" I ask, and she tells me it was her former psychotic friend. And again I have to remind her, "And you still believe that story when you know how much that woman lied about everything? Including lying to others about you?"</p><p></p><p>My friend does a double-take, shakes herself and says, "Of course. I had forgotten." But sometimes it is difficult to go back and identify where you heard this story or that tale, and work out after the liar is gone, where truth really lies. Meanwhile my friend has acted on some of this misinformation, burning her bridges of friendship permanently in some cases.</p><p></p><p>It's been ten years now since this woman spun her lies, and still my friend is trying to sort out the pieces.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 441716, member: 1991"] Sadly, that happens far more than we often realise. People who show genuine compassion are often ripe for exploitation. And the damage that is done, is to overlay the compassion from then on with a veneer of suspicion. My best friend keeps falling for this sort of thing. She befriended a woman who hurt her badly (and stalked me online rather scarily). My friend finally realised that this woman was deceitful and damaging, and cut off ties. But by then, the woman had inveigled herself in to other friendships and family relationships, and used her knowledge to sabotage my friend's relationships with these people. The woman eventually left town (one step in front of the lynch mob). But even to this day, occasionally my friend will repeat a story to me as fact, that doesn't ring true. "Where did you hear that?" I ask, and she tells me it was her former psychotic friend. And again I have to remind her, "And you still believe that story when you know how much that woman lied about everything? Including lying to others about you?" My friend does a double-take, shakes herself and says, "Of course. I had forgotten." But sometimes it is difficult to go back and identify where you heard this story or that tale, and work out after the liar is gone, where truth really lies. Meanwhile my friend has acted on some of this misinformation, burning her bridges of friendship permanently in some cases. It's been ten years now since this woman spun her lies, and still my friend is trying to sort out the pieces. Marg [/QUOTE]
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