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<blockquote data-quote="Kathy813" data-source="post: 757389" data-attributes="member: 1967"><p>ChickPea, when a person stops using, they still exhibit addictive behaviors. They have to work at changing those behaviors. For my daughter, it was NA and a wonderful sponsor who helped my daughter change back into the person she was before her active addiction.</p><p></p><p>She worked through the 12-steps several times and attended meetings regularly. She made a new friend group of people in recovery. Two of those friends were bridesmaids at her wedding. Even now, she averages one meeting a week. I find it ironic that NA turned out to be the answer for her since she was adamantly against 12-step groups while she was drinking and using drugs.</p><p></p><p>It was also not just her that got help. I went to therapy for two years to learn how to stop my co-dependent behavior. I had to learn to set firm boundaries and let her fall. My husband joined me during the second year. When we finally learned how to set and keep firm boundaries and stop rescuing her, she got better.</p><p></p><p>When she got married last November, she and her now husband wrote their own vows. She read them to my younger daughter and me the night before the wedding. She mentioned one of the 12-steps in her vows and I asked her if she really wanted to say that in front of everyone. She said it was a part of her and her history and she was proud of how far she has come and had no problem with sharing that at her wedding.</p><p></p><p>Yup, brought tears to my eyes.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kathy813, post: 757389, member: 1967"] ChickPea, when a person stops using, they still exhibit addictive behaviors. They have to work at changing those behaviors. For my daughter, it was NA and a wonderful sponsor who helped my daughter change back into the person she was before her active addiction. She worked through the 12-steps several times and attended meetings regularly. She made a new friend group of people in recovery. Two of those friends were bridesmaids at her wedding. Even now, she averages one meeting a week. I find it ironic that NA turned out to be the answer for her since she was adamantly against 12-step groups while she was drinking and using drugs. It was also not just her that got help. I went to therapy for two years to learn how to stop my co-dependent behavior. I had to learn to set firm boundaries and let her fall. My husband joined me during the second year. When we finally learned how to set and keep firm boundaries and stop rescuing her, she got better. When she got married last November, she and her now husband wrote their own vows. She read them to my younger daughter and me the night before the wedding. She mentioned one of the 12-steps in her vows and I asked her if she really wanted to say that in front of everyone. She said it was a part of her and her history and she was proud of how far she has come and had no problem with sharing that at her wedding. Yup, brought tears to my eyes. [/QUOTE]
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