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Boundaries: non existant in her world, will that EVER change???
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<blockquote data-quote="nerfherder" data-source="post: 585833" data-attributes="member: 15907"><p>My girl, 17, functions emotionally at about age 4, and still wants low cut shirts, peer-driven clothing choices. We handle it by keeping only modestly appropriate clothes in her choices, and roughly only exactly a week's worth so she can't hoard.</p><p></p><p>Your girl is in some ways functioning higher, it sounds like, but somehow ended up with a sexualized focus. Unless you have some kind of Guardianship (as I'm learning) there isn't a lot you can do. If she's on the streets you've handled at least one part - getting her out from under your roof, which bear in mind I'm not criticizing - I'd probably have done the same thing.</p><p></p><p>And no, I'm rather sad for y'all - I don't think you'll be able to change her. If she doesn't change herself, well, see the very frequently (and justifiably so!) link on Detachment that is frequently shared here. I hope you find peace, and figure out a way to enforce that her presence amongst your household is dependent on her appropriate behavior. Some of our kids just can't seem to make the "Behavior = Consequences" connection, my girl has a huge problem with that too. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="nerfherder, post: 585833, member: 15907"] My girl, 17, functions emotionally at about age 4, and still wants low cut shirts, peer-driven clothing choices. We handle it by keeping only modestly appropriate clothes in her choices, and roughly only exactly a week's worth so she can't hoard. Your girl is in some ways functioning higher, it sounds like, but somehow ended up with a sexualized focus. Unless you have some kind of Guardianship (as I'm learning) there isn't a lot you can do. If she's on the streets you've handled at least one part - getting her out from under your roof, which bear in mind I'm not criticizing - I'd probably have done the same thing. And no, I'm rather sad for y'all - I don't think you'll be able to change her. If she doesn't change herself, well, see the very frequently (and justifiably so!) link on Detachment that is frequently shared here. I hope you find peace, and figure out a way to enforce that her presence amongst your household is dependent on her appropriate behavior. Some of our kids just can't seem to make the "Behavior = Consequences" connection, my girl has a huge problem with that too. :( [/QUOTE]
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