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<blockquote data-quote="Ehlena" data-source="post: 578702" data-attributes="member: 6097"><p>He unfortunately does have a history of hurting animals. I don't know how bad it is, exactly. No one's actually caught him doing it. The last SW noted suspicious scratches on his arms, and he told an elaborate story that made no sense when she asked him about them. And he's told me things - about throwing a cat from a roof and putting my dog in the refrigerator.</p><p></p><p>We did report the break in and the missing animals. We reported the last break in, too. Last time one of our neighbors saw him, so was able to identify him to police. No one saw him this time, but our neighbors know who to keep an eye out for. The former foster mother specifically requested that he not be placed in the area (he broke into her place too, and choked and threatened her son), so I don't know why they thought it appropriate for him to be here. May call her and see if he's done anything to her house too.</p><p></p><p>The police are looking for him. He is likely looking at more time in juvie, but I don't know how long. husband took the day off, and we are working on making our place more secure. I think the only reason difficult child hesitated to break a window is because our neighbors run a day care, and they would have heard. Still trying to get husband on board with the alarm monitoring. I know he feels guilty. He feels like he should have been there more for difficult child when he was little (husband was attending college in another part of the state), that he should have known his mom was on drugs, and that she was neglecting/abusing him. And maybe things would have been different, I don't know. But husband has also done everything in his power to turn things around for this kid. I just wonder if there are some wounds that can't be healed. When difficult child was 12, his mom decided she wanted to be a part of his life again, and then he wanted to live with her (which husband said absolutely not to - he knew it wasn't safe) and she encouraged him, and things spiraled.</p><p></p><p>I don't feel safe with him running around our neighborhood. Every time I see someone that looks like it could be him, I start getting that fight or flight reaction, even if I'm just driving down the street in my car. I don't think husband understands. difficult child is not a tiny little kid anymore. husband is much bigger than him, so maybe that's why he doesn't get it.</p><p></p><p>We talk a lot about what a good kid he used to be, but I have worried and worked myself to the bone trying to help difficult child. This kid, who looks me in the eye and tells me he loves me, and then two minutes later is telling someone how we have abused him and calls me an "asian b---" - I don't know this kid.</p><p></p><p>Got a good suggestion for a masterlock product that keeps people from kicking in doors. We are also looking into security cameras. Hoping the alarm system isn't a hill my husband is willing to die on.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ehlena, post: 578702, member: 6097"] He unfortunately does have a history of hurting animals. I don't know how bad it is, exactly. No one's actually caught him doing it. The last SW noted suspicious scratches on his arms, and he told an elaborate story that made no sense when she asked him about them. And he's told me things - about throwing a cat from a roof and putting my dog in the refrigerator. We did report the break in and the missing animals. We reported the last break in, too. Last time one of our neighbors saw him, so was able to identify him to police. No one saw him this time, but our neighbors know who to keep an eye out for. The former foster mother specifically requested that he not be placed in the area (he broke into her place too, and choked and threatened her son), so I don't know why they thought it appropriate for him to be here. May call her and see if he's done anything to her house too. The police are looking for him. He is likely looking at more time in juvie, but I don't know how long. husband took the day off, and we are working on making our place more secure. I think the only reason difficult child hesitated to break a window is because our neighbors run a day care, and they would have heard. Still trying to get husband on board with the alarm monitoring. I know he feels guilty. He feels like he should have been there more for difficult child when he was little (husband was attending college in another part of the state), that he should have known his mom was on drugs, and that she was neglecting/abusing him. And maybe things would have been different, I don't know. But husband has also done everything in his power to turn things around for this kid. I just wonder if there are some wounds that can't be healed. When difficult child was 12, his mom decided she wanted to be a part of his life again, and then he wanted to live with her (which husband said absolutely not to - he knew it wasn't safe) and she encouraged him, and things spiraled. I don't feel safe with him running around our neighborhood. Every time I see someone that looks like it could be him, I start getting that fight or flight reaction, even if I'm just driving down the street in my car. I don't think husband understands. difficult child is not a tiny little kid anymore. husband is much bigger than him, so maybe that's why he doesn't get it. We talk a lot about what a good kid he used to be, but I have worried and worked myself to the bone trying to help difficult child. This kid, who looks me in the eye and tells me he loves me, and then two minutes later is telling someone how we have abused him and calls me an "asian b---" - I don't know this kid. Got a good suggestion for a masterlock product that keeps people from kicking in doors. We are also looking into security cameras. Hoping the alarm system isn't a hill my husband is willing to die on. [/QUOTE]
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