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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 672759" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>Hi Hopeful,I hope your day is going well, mine is just beginning, roosters crowing and cool dawns air wafts through my windows. I am glad you are still here with us and posting. I am sorry for your heartache. Truly sorry dear.</p><p> It is okay, we all go through this, we are all learning.</p><p></p><p> This is hard, Hopeful, but you are doing the right thing.</p><p></p><p> Boundaries, important for them and us. This is disrespectful to you, first in the expectation of you to drop everything and bring him food, he is an adult and capable. There is help out there. I am pretty sure if you brought him food, he would have asked for other things, money, etc. Then come the insults, yes I have been there, too. Hold on to the insults, they will help to strengthen you.</p><p></p><p> It is for him, too. It is for him to learn and grow, to stop depending on you and abusing you at the same time. Unacceptable, it is all so unacceptable. This is not how we raised our children, Hopeful.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Hold on to this thought, it is what helps me to be strong, because it is true. No change.</p><p>It does not mean it will not come, change. It means stepping out of the picture is all the more, imperative, for us, and them.</p><p> You do not deserve the treatment you are receiving. Do not accept it.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Please do not ever apologize for posting and turning to this site. I find myself here a lot, too, it helps me process what I am going through. There will come a time when we will not need to be here so often, that is healing. So, Hopeful, I hope you continue to post and share, and vent. It is good for you, and others who are on similar paths, we know we are not alone in this.We learn, heal and grow from each other's stories.</p><p> This is wonderful Hopeful.</p><p></p><p> Repeat away, it is helpful. No worries.</p><p></p><p>Ahhh, the holidays. We are not the Norman Rockwell painting now, right? So, start new traditions, volunteer in a Church dinner, visit a nursing home, go to a park.</p><p>Do something different. We do not have to be that painting, we can make our own.</p><p></p><p>I pray for you for peace of mind. You are doing very well. It is not easy, so please take time to do good things for yourself. Rebuild yourself. You have been through many years of this, it is wearing.</p><p></p><p>Be good to yourself Hopeful, your life and your time matters.</p><p></p><p>(((HUGS)))</p><p>leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 672759, member: 19522"] Hi Hopeful,I hope your day is going well, mine is just beginning, roosters crowing and cool dawns air wafts through my windows. I am glad you are still here with us and posting. I am sorry for your heartache. Truly sorry dear. It is okay, we all go through this, we are all learning. This is hard, Hopeful, but you are doing the right thing. Boundaries, important for them and us. This is disrespectful to you, first in the expectation of you to drop everything and bring him food, he is an adult and capable. There is help out there. I am pretty sure if you brought him food, he would have asked for other things, money, etc. Then come the insults, yes I have been there, too. Hold on to the insults, they will help to strengthen you. It is for him, too. It is for him to learn and grow, to stop depending on you and abusing you at the same time. Unacceptable, it is all so unacceptable. This is not how we raised our children, Hopeful. Hold on to this thought, it is what helps me to be strong, because it is true. No change. It does not mean it will not come, change. It means stepping out of the picture is all the more, imperative, for us, and them. You do not deserve the treatment you are receiving. Do not accept it. Please do not ever apologize for posting and turning to this site. I find myself here a lot, too, it helps me process what I am going through. There will come a time when we will not need to be here so often, that is healing. So, Hopeful, I hope you continue to post and share, and vent. It is good for you, and others who are on similar paths, we know we are not alone in this.We learn, heal and grow from each other's stories. This is wonderful Hopeful. Repeat away, it is helpful. No worries. Ahhh, the holidays. We are not the Norman Rockwell painting now, right? So, start new traditions, volunteer in a Church dinner, visit a nursing home, go to a park. Do something different. We do not have to be that painting, we can make our own. I pray for you for peace of mind. You are doing very well. It is not easy, so please take time to do good things for yourself. Rebuild yourself. You have been through many years of this, it is wearing. Be good to yourself Hopeful, your life and your time matters. (((HUGS))) leafy [/QUOTE]
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