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<blockquote data-quote="Dazed n Confused" data-source="post: 344358" data-attributes="member: 9086"><p>I am far from an expert on this and I am having problems with my own child. But being married to an officer, I can offer you this advice.</p><p> </p><p>First - if you feel comfortable, call the non-emergency line and ask for the Sgt. on duty. Explain to him that you need to make it aware that your are trying to get help for your "MENTALLY ILL CHILD". You are not calling to complain about the officer but you need them to understand this isn't just a child being mean, there is something mentally wrong. Ask that if the officer wrote an "Informational report about the incident", if he didn't you would like one done. If you have to tell them that this is what your counselor stated to do. Then tell him that you will need a copy of the report to keep for your records and medical records. You will probably have to go to the Sheriff/Police recordds dept. to pick it up. They may charge you a small fee. Here its like 15 cents a page. Even thought my husband is in LE, we still have to pay.</p><p> </p><p>Second - The next time that she is doing this call 911 and tell them that you have a mentall ill child that is out of control and you need officer assistant to transport to the hospital. Stay on the line with them until the officer arrives, so that they have her screaming, cusing, etc. in the back ground of the 911 call. Also in your call state to the 911 dispatcher that you would like the officer to document the situation for medical records. </p><p> </p><p>Third - When the officer gets there ask him/her politely if they understand that this is not a DV situation it is a child who has a mental condition and needs to be evaluated. If they "don't get it" or seem to blow you off, ask if there is another officer that come assist or their Sgt. that come to you house. Most cops are bitter and think that kids that act out or not worth their time of day, unless they can arrest them for something. </p><p> </p><p>Was the guy younger that came to your house....usually those are the ones that don't get it. Sometimes it can be the older ones that are just buying their time to retirement and don't want to write the paper. I don't want to make cops sound bad, especially since I am married to one. There is always a few rotten eggs in the bunch.</p><p> </p><p>Our situation has opened my husbands eyes and his co-workers eyes to a whole new world. My husband is now more proactive for the parents and will push for the child to be evaluated. He really understands that the parents and siblings suffer during these "outbursts", he also understands that the child doesn't know why they are doing what they are doing. There were times I wanted him to take our son when he was on duty, unfortunately it can't work that way, not only that but we live in a different county and the county we live in blows for mental help.</p><p> </p><p>He has one other coworker that has a son that is Bipolar, but he tried to burn the house down and hurt his brother. His child lives in a mental facility full-time. Until someone on the department has lived it or has a relative with a mental problem, most cops just don't get it. There are exceptions to every department. My husband and I talked about how he never gets the phone call of someone calling the cops to tell them they just won the lottery or they had a baby. They are the ones that deal with the worst of the worst, but they also chose that as a career and need to have an open mind.</p><p> </p><p>Ok.........off my soap box regarding cops. I hope something I said here helps you. Another thing is, if you can video tape and episode or if you have a cell phone that records, trying getting it on video.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Dazed n Confused, post: 344358, member: 9086"] I am far from an expert on this and I am having problems with my own child. But being married to an officer, I can offer you this advice. First - if you feel comfortable, call the non-emergency line and ask for the Sgt. on duty. Explain to him that you need to make it aware that your are trying to get help for your "MENTALLY ILL CHILD". You are not calling to complain about the officer but you need them to understand this isn't just a child being mean, there is something mentally wrong. Ask that if the officer wrote an "Informational report about the incident", if he didn't you would like one done. If you have to tell them that this is what your counselor stated to do. Then tell him that you will need a copy of the report to keep for your records and medical records. You will probably have to go to the Sheriff/Police recordds dept. to pick it up. They may charge you a small fee. Here its like 15 cents a page. Even thought my husband is in LE, we still have to pay. Second - The next time that she is doing this call 911 and tell them that you have a mentall ill child that is out of control and you need officer assistant to transport to the hospital. Stay on the line with them until the officer arrives, so that they have her screaming, cusing, etc. in the back ground of the 911 call. Also in your call state to the 911 dispatcher that you would like the officer to document the situation for medical records. Third - When the officer gets there ask him/her politely if they understand that this is not a DV situation it is a child who has a mental condition and needs to be evaluated. If they "don't get it" or seem to blow you off, ask if there is another officer that come assist or their Sgt. that come to you house. Most cops are bitter and think that kids that act out or not worth their time of day, unless they can arrest them for something. Was the guy younger that came to your house....usually those are the ones that don't get it. Sometimes it can be the older ones that are just buying their time to retirement and don't want to write the paper. I don't want to make cops sound bad, especially since I am married to one. There is always a few rotten eggs in the bunch. Our situation has opened my husbands eyes and his co-workers eyes to a whole new world. My husband is now more proactive for the parents and will push for the child to be evaluated. He really understands that the parents and siblings suffer during these "outbursts", he also understands that the child doesn't know why they are doing what they are doing. There were times I wanted him to take our son when he was on duty, unfortunately it can't work that way, not only that but we live in a different county and the county we live in blows for mental help. He has one other coworker that has a son that is Bipolar, but he tried to burn the house down and hurt his brother. His child lives in a mental facility full-time. Until someone on the department has lived it or has a relative with a mental problem, most cops just don't get it. There are exceptions to every department. My husband and I talked about how he never gets the phone call of someone calling the cops to tell them they just won the lottery or they had a baby. They are the ones that deal with the worst of the worst, but they also chose that as a career and need to have an open mind. Ok.........off my soap box regarding cops. I hope something I said here helps you. Another thing is, if you can video tape and episode or if you have a cell phone that records, trying getting it on video. [/QUOTE]
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