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Bullying by peers even worse for mental health than abuse by parents
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 655672" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Often it goes hand in hand. If you are abused at home, it is usually because your family of origin sees you as vulnerable or different or in some way offensive to their image, and the kids see the same. Bullying at school was no bed of roses either and back then the teachers tended to look the other way. As a child, you feel very much alone. Very few kids have the guts to befriend you because they don't want to be a target too.</p><p></p><p>I want to add that kid bullies are very good at doing it when no authority figures are around and reporting it is one kid's word against another's. Often, at least where Jumper went to school, the bullied and the bully get equal punishment, especially if the bullied fights back or tries to. Then it is considered that they are both equally in the wrong.</p><p></p><p>Nobody ever stole my thinks. It was more taunting, teasing, getting up and moving away if I sat down near them, girl stuff, but sometimes a few of the boys tried to fight with me. I think I was lucky that one brave girl, who moved to our town when I was twelve, befriended me. She hated th e snobbery of our town and befriended me and dared anyone to tell her not to and she taught me a lot about how not to be bullied so it went away by high school.</p><p></p><p>My brother had it far worse than me in the bullying department. It went on, I believe, into high school. (In this, I haven't spoken to him in so long, I could be incorrect, but I believe it went on until college). He didn't deserve it. He was a good kid and he was very sick so he looked sick and tiny and...well, that's all it takes for a good bully to get his fix. However, he did not get bullied at home.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 655672, member: 1550"] Often it goes hand in hand. If you are abused at home, it is usually because your family of origin sees you as vulnerable or different or in some way offensive to their image, and the kids see the same. Bullying at school was no bed of roses either and back then the teachers tended to look the other way. As a child, you feel very much alone. Very few kids have the guts to befriend you because they don't want to be a target too. I want to add that kid bullies are very good at doing it when no authority figures are around and reporting it is one kid's word against another's. Often, at least where Jumper went to school, the bullied and the bully get equal punishment, especially if the bullied fights back or tries to. Then it is considered that they are both equally in the wrong. Nobody ever stole my thinks. It was more taunting, teasing, getting up and moving away if I sat down near them, girl stuff, but sometimes a few of the boys tried to fight with me. I think I was lucky that one brave girl, who moved to our town when I was twelve, befriended me. She hated th e snobbery of our town and befriended me and dared anyone to tell her not to and she taught me a lot about how not to be bullied so it went away by high school. My brother had it far worse than me in the bullying department. It went on, I believe, into high school. (In this, I haven't spoken to him in so long, I could be incorrect, but I believe it went on until college). He didn't deserve it. He was a good kid and he was very sick so he looked sick and tiny and...well, that's all it takes for a good bully to get his fix. However, he did not get bullied at home. [/QUOTE]
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