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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 236655" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hi there. </p><p>Of course it could be the medications. I have bipolar and I've been on a lot of different medications and they don't always do what they're supposed to do. Actually, my doctor doesn't like too many medications and only changes one at a time. Since your son had Lithium and Abilify added at the same time, you don't know which one might be causing the problem. However, it does take Lithium eight weeks to get to it's maximum effect...my layman's guess would be that, if medications are doing it, it's the ADHD medication combined with Abilify. Abilify can be very good...or it can be very bad and cause hypernness (actually most medications can be very good or very bad depending on the person). </p><p>Has your little boy gotten much help for the Aspergers? Medication won't really help autistic spectrum disorder. That part of your son needs a different sort of approach than just medication. My son is on the spectrum and what helped him was the school interventions--social skills classes (this was WONDERFUL), a smaller class with an aide to teach him things like how to see the big picture and take notes in class, life skills etc. He would then be mainstreamed for half the day and he always did really well--now he is completely mainstreamed. The "start out slow" plan at school really worked. He is now always on the honor roll and he hasn't had a meltdown since he's been maybe eight years old (and he's medication free, however he doesn't have bipolar.) Aspies can become very frustrated and get aggressive if the Aspergers isn't addressed as much as the bipolar. In my son's case, he was wrongly diagnosed with bipolar. Many k ids with Aspergers get a wrong bipolar diagnosis and the concentration becomes on medication rather than intervention. If he has both, then there has to be a balance. in my opinion only I wouldn't put a child who hits or could "lose it" into martial arts. If he forgets his discipline even one time and uses it on somebody...not good. I'm not convinced that our kids can learn to always use these things the right way. They don't have the same impulse control as most other kids. Swimming was very good for my son. He was even on the swim team for a while. He also plays soccer. </p><p>in my opinion only (I'm just a mom) since your son has Aspergers appealing to his feelings is not as effective as appealing to his Aspie "logic." They love black and white and are concrete thinkers. When he bullies somebody, take away something he loves to do. in my opinion again that will drive the point home a lot better than a talk, although you can talk to him too. My son is a very caring young man, but he doesn't always understand "feelings." Therapy never worked that well with him because until you go to somebody who understands spectrum kids, sometimes they just don't connect with each other, which is important in therapy. I speak as one who has had about twenty therapists in my life--if there's no connection, it doesn't really work. Spectrum kids have trouble understanding other people--that's part of the disorder.</p><p>Ok, so I rambled on and on...lol. Hey, I'm just a mom so all this is JMO. I hope you find a solution that works for you. There's were my thoughts and a dash of my experiences. Take care!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 236655, member: 1550"] Hi there. Of course it could be the medications. I have bipolar and I've been on a lot of different medications and they don't always do what they're supposed to do. Actually, my doctor doesn't like too many medications and only changes one at a time. Since your son had Lithium and Abilify added at the same time, you don't know which one might be causing the problem. However, it does take Lithium eight weeks to get to it's maximum effect...my layman's guess would be that, if medications are doing it, it's the ADHD medication combined with Abilify. Abilify can be very good...or it can be very bad and cause hypernness (actually most medications can be very good or very bad depending on the person). Has your little boy gotten much help for the Aspergers? Medication won't really help autistic spectrum disorder. That part of your son needs a different sort of approach than just medication. My son is on the spectrum and what helped him was the school interventions--social skills classes (this was WONDERFUL), a smaller class with an aide to teach him things like how to see the big picture and take notes in class, life skills etc. He would then be mainstreamed for half the day and he always did really well--now he is completely mainstreamed. The "start out slow" plan at school really worked. He is now always on the honor roll and he hasn't had a meltdown since he's been maybe eight years old (and he's medication free, however he doesn't have bipolar.) Aspies can become very frustrated and get aggressive if the Aspergers isn't addressed as much as the bipolar. In my son's case, he was wrongly diagnosed with bipolar. Many k ids with Aspergers get a wrong bipolar diagnosis and the concentration becomes on medication rather than intervention. If he has both, then there has to be a balance. in my opinion only I wouldn't put a child who hits or could "lose it" into martial arts. If he forgets his discipline even one time and uses it on somebody...not good. I'm not convinced that our kids can learn to always use these things the right way. They don't have the same impulse control as most other kids. Swimming was very good for my son. He was even on the swim team for a while. He also plays soccer. in my opinion only (I'm just a mom) since your son has Aspergers appealing to his feelings is not as effective as appealing to his Aspie "logic." They love black and white and are concrete thinkers. When he bullies somebody, take away something he loves to do. in my opinion again that will drive the point home a lot better than a talk, although you can talk to him too. My son is a very caring young man, but he doesn't always understand "feelings." Therapy never worked that well with him because until you go to somebody who understands spectrum kids, sometimes they just don't connect with each other, which is important in therapy. I speak as one who has had about twenty therapists in my life--if there's no connection, it doesn't really work. Spectrum kids have trouble understanding other people--that's part of the disorder. Ok, so I rambled on and on...lol. Hey, I'm just a mom so all this is JMO. I hope you find a solution that works for you. There's were my thoughts and a dash of my experiences. Take care! [/QUOTE]
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