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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 172991" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>"Long story short - she hates everything about her life. How she looks, how she feels, how she never does anything, etc, etc, etc. And it CANNOT be fixed. It's unfixable. She cannot change how she feels. She cannot change who she is or what she thinks. Period."</p><p> </p><p>Oh my gosh. Does this mindset not just drive you out of your tree? We've gone round and round and round with this for years. I'm afraid I've lost patience with it. My response now is that his life is what he's making it. If it rots, then fix it. If it's unfixable (and how on earth would he know since he hasn't even tried), then it's time for acceptance and quit kvetching about it. I can't fix it, even though it's all my fault in his eyes. And I'm *really* tired of hearing it.</p><p> </p><p>I know that there's an underlying baseline depression in thank you's case that, depending on the day, can really feed into this but I honestly don't believe there's a medication in the world that can "fix" it. He refuses to participate in therapy in any meaningful way. So he's perpetuating it and it's certainly been pointed out to him by a lot of people. Frustrating!</p><p> </p><p>You are a far better woman than I - if anyone came to me at 2:30 in the morning to gripe, their lives would be in serious jeopardy!!!! Egads.... </p><p> </p><p>Have you given her a set time frame to give therapy a try? Like maybe 6-9 months or so? If she's expecting face wash to work in 2 days (sounds just like my son, LOL), I'm wondering what her expectations of therapy are.</p><p> </p><p>Hang in there - hope she finds something to distract her from boredom today.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 172991, member: 8"] "Long story short - she hates everything about her life. How she looks, how she feels, how she never does anything, etc, etc, etc. And it CANNOT be fixed. It's unfixable. She cannot change how she feels. She cannot change who she is or what she thinks. Period." Oh my gosh. Does this mindset not just drive you out of your tree? We've gone round and round and round with this for years. I'm afraid I've lost patience with it. My response now is that his life is what he's making it. If it rots, then fix it. If it's unfixable (and how on earth would he know since he hasn't even tried), then it's time for acceptance and quit kvetching about it. I can't fix it, even though it's all my fault in his eyes. And I'm *really* tired of hearing it. I know that there's an underlying baseline depression in thank you's case that, depending on the day, can really feed into this but I honestly don't believe there's a medication in the world that can "fix" it. He refuses to participate in therapy in any meaningful way. So he's perpetuating it and it's certainly been pointed out to him by a lot of people. Frustrating! You are a far better woman than I - if anyone came to me at 2:30 in the morning to gripe, their lives would be in serious jeopardy!!!! Egads.... Have you given her a set time frame to give therapy a try? Like maybe 6-9 months or so? If she's expecting face wash to work in 2 days (sounds just like my son, LOL), I'm wondering what her expectations of therapy are. Hang in there - hope she finds something to distract her from boredom today. [/QUOTE]
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