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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 173157" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>Whether it is a problem child or a tween, the issues are the same. As you said, it is the level things are taken to and the reactions that make them so dang difficult -- we can't react like the "normal" parent would. At the same time, our kids are going to live in the "normal" world whether they want to or not.</p><p> </p><p>I will make exceptions for my daughter and I have fought many battles for her. However, I also insisted that she do as much as she could to rectify problems before coming to me.</p><p> </p><p>An employer is not going to let someone go on and on about being unhappy -- they're going to tell say do job or go elsewhere. If it is said enough, it is simply go elsewhere. Friends are only going to listen to complaints so long and then find other friends who are more fun to be around. That's how life works. As difficult as it is, that is what we have to teach our kids. The world is not going to accommodate their differences nor their anxieties. The world is going to expect them to find their own solutions. It is not going to listen to the "I can't," "it won't work," etc. Flat out, the world is not going to care.</p><p> </p><p>I truly wish we could make things easier for our kids, but we can't. They're not so impaired that they will qualify for disability, so they are going to have to find a way to survive in this world. We have to teach them how and part of that teaching is forcing them to come up with their own solutions.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 173157, member: 3626"] Whether it is a problem child or a tween, the issues are the same. As you said, it is the level things are taken to and the reactions that make them so dang difficult -- we can't react like the "normal" parent would. At the same time, our kids are going to live in the "normal" world whether they want to or not. I will make exceptions for my daughter and I have fought many battles for her. However, I also insisted that she do as much as she could to rectify problems before coming to me. An employer is not going to let someone go on and on about being unhappy -- they're going to tell say do job or go elsewhere. If it is said enough, it is simply go elsewhere. Friends are only going to listen to complaints so long and then find other friends who are more fun to be around. That's how life works. As difficult as it is, that is what we have to teach our kids. The world is not going to accommodate their differences nor their anxieties. The world is going to expect them to find their own solutions. It is not going to listen to the "I can't," "it won't work," etc. Flat out, the world is not going to care. I truly wish we could make things easier for our kids, but we can't. They're not so impaired that they will qualify for disability, so they are going to have to find a way to survive in this world. We have to teach them how and part of that teaching is forcing them to come up with their own solutions. [/QUOTE]
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