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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 617826" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I feel stressed and sad. But I have also learned to take care of myself, regardless. Sometimes I don't want to leave t he house. I just want to stay angry or cry like a baby. If I make myself go out, I always feel better afterward. And after a bad conversation with, say, 36, who is the grown child likely to be abusive, I used to feel hurt, but I just blow it off now (honest!). I think, "Man, he's unhappy, but I'm not going to let his temporary bad thoughts ruin my day. I have a husband, other kids, and a life to live and I won't let him bring me down with him."</p><p></p><p>Sometimes I just get so disgusted I wish he'd never call me again, but my one promise to all my kids are...I will NEVER not speak to you or toss you to the dogs if you are speaking to me respectfully. I will never disown you completely. If YOU disown ME, I will accept it and you can expect me to behave as if I don't exist to you so don't ask me for anything or expect anything, however I will never do that to you first.</p><p></p><p>But you do have to speak to me with respect and without just wanting something from me or else you do not get the privilege of speaking to me. 36 is, after all, 36 already. Age is not an excuse. He knows how I feel and if I don't stick to it, he is far worse. Lately, since his custody battle is over and he won, he is under far less stress and when he is stressed he is mean and scary. But he's been pretty good of late!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 617826, member: 1550"] I feel stressed and sad. But I have also learned to take care of myself, regardless. Sometimes I don't want to leave t he house. I just want to stay angry or cry like a baby. If I make myself go out, I always feel better afterward. And after a bad conversation with, say, 36, who is the grown child likely to be abusive, I used to feel hurt, but I just blow it off now (honest!). I think, "Man, he's unhappy, but I'm not going to let his temporary bad thoughts ruin my day. I have a husband, other kids, and a life to live and I won't let him bring me down with him." Sometimes I just get so disgusted I wish he'd never call me again, but my one promise to all my kids are...I will NEVER not speak to you or toss you to the dogs if you are speaking to me respectfully. I will never disown you completely. If YOU disown ME, I will accept it and you can expect me to behave as if I don't exist to you so don't ask me for anything or expect anything, however I will never do that to you first. But you do have to speak to me with respect and without just wanting something from me or else you do not get the privilege of speaking to me. 36 is, after all, 36 already. Age is not an excuse. He knows how I feel and if I don't stick to it, he is far worse. Lately, since his custody battle is over and he won, he is under far less stress and when he is stressed he is mean and scary. But he's been pretty good of late! [/QUOTE]
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