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<blockquote data-quote="BackintheSaddle" data-source="post: 618092" data-attributes="member: 17503"><p>To see what is for what it is without judging either ourselves or the kids.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Read more: <a href="http://www.conductdisorders.com/community/threads/but-how-do-you-feel.56256/#ixzz2rB3ymI3K" target="_blank">http://www.conductdisorders.com/community/threads/but-how-do-you-feel.56256/#ixzz2rB3ymI3K</a></p><p> </p><p>As I was reading to catch up with the discussions today, I was struck by how many were saying they are embarrassed by their kids-- what it says about us as parents that our kids are mean, bullies, don't take responsibility for themselves, abusive, telling anyone they talk to how all their troubles in life are from their awful childhood and parents. I've been embarrassed a lot, which is why we all feel so isolated I suppose. I have a friend who has a daughter at Duke University, studying to be a physician and she tries to make me feel better by saying her and her daughter went through the same things as what I'm experiencing now. Her daughter is a easy child-- that child would never get in her face and scream at her, blame her for her own problems, not study because she can't handle the stress of thinking about the test, nearly flunking out of high school (one of my most embarrassing moments was that we didn't know until 2 days before he was to graduate that he made it!--- so I had to tell a lot of my friends he might not make it)...see, I have a PhD and most of my friends are highly educated (so their children are doctors, veterinarians, etc) while mine, I can't even live with mine. People who are 'sort of' friends (close enough I might tell them about an incident but not tell them alot of details) and I tell them any one event we've gone through with Jacob, look at me so funny-- almost like they think I must be exaggerating, making it up, misinterpreting what happened...it can't be THAT bad!....but you all know it can be...you've lived it as long or longer than I have keeping it a secret how hard life was at home...there have been a lot of days where I dreaded getting home after work, and now I don't have to worry about that anymore...another blessing today!...;-)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BackintheSaddle, post: 618092, member: 17503"] To see what is for what it is without judging either ourselves or the kids. Read more: [url]http://www.conductdisorders.com/community/threads/but-how-do-you-feel.56256/#ixzz2rB3ymI3K[/url] As I was reading to catch up with the discussions today, I was struck by how many were saying they are embarrassed by their kids-- what it says about us as parents that our kids are mean, bullies, don't take responsibility for themselves, abusive, telling anyone they talk to how all their troubles in life are from their awful childhood and parents. I've been embarrassed a lot, which is why we all feel so isolated I suppose. I have a friend who has a daughter at Duke University, studying to be a physician and she tries to make me feel better by saying her and her daughter went through the same things as what I'm experiencing now. Her daughter is a easy child-- that child would never get in her face and scream at her, blame her for her own problems, not study because she can't handle the stress of thinking about the test, nearly flunking out of high school (one of my most embarrassing moments was that we didn't know until 2 days before he was to graduate that he made it!--- so I had to tell a lot of my friends he might not make it)...see, I have a PhD and most of my friends are highly educated (so their children are doctors, veterinarians, etc) while mine, I can't even live with mine. People who are 'sort of' friends (close enough I might tell them about an incident but not tell them alot of details) and I tell them any one event we've gone through with Jacob, look at me so funny-- almost like they think I must be exaggerating, making it up, misinterpreting what happened...it can't be THAT bad!....but you all know it can be...you've lived it as long or longer than I have keeping it a secret how hard life was at home...there have been a lot of days where I dreaded getting home after work, and now I don't have to worry about that anymore...another blessing today!...;-) [/QUOTE]
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