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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 335951" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>For some reason boys do not seem to be able to avoid porn. You are going to have to do a LOT more than just make him use the computer in the living room to keep him away from it. </p><p></p><p>Wiz used to take a stick and jab it into his arms and legs until he bled. Then he would pick at the scabs until they bled. It was at his worst when he was on zoloft. It did get better when we increased his risperdal. For a while.</p><p></p><p>I did not allow Wiz to refuse antibiotic ointment - and he HATES "strange unguents" coming into contact with his body. I didn't want him to pick. He did. He did not want ointment. I did. It was goop or have dad hold you down and get goop. Period. He was very strong when angry, scary strong. I offered to get hospital restraints if he fought it. I found them online and told him the price - and that they would come out of HIS birthday/holiday/allowance $$. He allowed the ointment. </p><p></p><p>He also had to go tp the pediatrician to discuss the disease aspect. Sticks are NOT clean and neither were his fingernails. doctor was displeased. Showed us enlarged pics of various bacteria that live on sticks. doctor thought Wiz would be grossed out. Wiz thought they looked "Cool, kinda like evil Pokemon!". He expressed desire to go and get a new stick because he wanted to "catch them all!"</p><p></p><p>Then the doctor started talking about treating these "evil pokemon". Spoke of cleansers that hurt, disinfectants that burned. Strange goops that would burn "for a couple of minutes" at every scab/wound. Also talked about shots. Lots of them. </p><p></p><p>The doctor scared him but not much. He did NOT like the cleansers and creams the doctor rx'd. But he did slow down.</p><p></p><p>Then he graduated to cutting. For a very short while he and a few friends would cut and then suck on each other's blood - to become "family". He really was angry when I found out. I was TERRIFIED that he would get a disease. He, of course, thought I was just over-reacting. (So did my dad, the idiot. He believed they were not really doing it and I should ignore it. HAH!)</p><p></p><p>I made Wiz pay for a doctor visit and tell the doctor what he was doing. doctor hit the ROOF. Demanded the other kids' names, explained disease risks, and prescribed a series of medications to help boost his immune system so that maybe he would not get sick.</p><p></p><p>The doctor made little impact, but paying for it AND the prescriptions and recommended products out of his own $$ that he was saving for a laptop was a big motivator. He was told to expect to do this after every time he spent time out of my sight with one of his "friends". </p><p></p><p>Where logic, fear, and anger did not sway him, coughing up the cash to pay for his choices and their consequences DID. The boy makes his money scream for help because he is SO FRUGAL.</p><p></p><p>I do not know what will help your son stop. It is an anxiety release for most kids. Like cutting it releases endorphins. </p><p></p><p>The psychiatrist NEEDS to know. I would also tell him that it IS your business because he is your child and you are the mother. Period. Wiz had to adjust to me not budging on that. </p><p></p><p>I eventually got a box of alcohol wipes. Told him if he liked pain I would help him. EVERY time I saw a new scab I would take the alcohol wipes and make him wipe off all the sores and scabs with it. No sense using peroxide, it doesn't hurt. </p><p></p><p>The alcohol wipes are cheap, about $1.25 for 100 in the pharmacy. They are also great for taking sharpie and ballpoint ink off of things and cleaning glasses. </p><p></p><p>This all stopped when he and my mom made a deal to both stop cutting. It was very hard for both of them. When stressed they fall back into wanting to do it and support each other to keep themselves from cutting.</p><p></p><p>It IS anxiety/depression related. I am sorry that your son is hurting this much.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 335951, member: 1233"] For some reason boys do not seem to be able to avoid porn. You are going to have to do a LOT more than just make him use the computer in the living room to keep him away from it. Wiz used to take a stick and jab it into his arms and legs until he bled. Then he would pick at the scabs until they bled. It was at his worst when he was on zoloft. It did get better when we increased his risperdal. For a while. I did not allow Wiz to refuse antibiotic ointment - and he HATES "strange unguents" coming into contact with his body. I didn't want him to pick. He did. He did not want ointment. I did. It was goop or have dad hold you down and get goop. Period. He was very strong when angry, scary strong. I offered to get hospital restraints if he fought it. I found them online and told him the price - and that they would come out of HIS birthday/holiday/allowance $$. He allowed the ointment. He also had to go tp the pediatrician to discuss the disease aspect. Sticks are NOT clean and neither were his fingernails. doctor was displeased. Showed us enlarged pics of various bacteria that live on sticks. doctor thought Wiz would be grossed out. Wiz thought they looked "Cool, kinda like evil Pokemon!". He expressed desire to go and get a new stick because he wanted to "catch them all!" Then the doctor started talking about treating these "evil pokemon". Spoke of cleansers that hurt, disinfectants that burned. Strange goops that would burn "for a couple of minutes" at every scab/wound. Also talked about shots. Lots of them. The doctor scared him but not much. He did NOT like the cleansers and creams the doctor rx'd. But he did slow down. Then he graduated to cutting. For a very short while he and a few friends would cut and then suck on each other's blood - to become "family". He really was angry when I found out. I was TERRIFIED that he would get a disease. He, of course, thought I was just over-reacting. (So did my dad, the idiot. He believed they were not really doing it and I should ignore it. HAH!) I made Wiz pay for a doctor visit and tell the doctor what he was doing. doctor hit the ROOF. Demanded the other kids' names, explained disease risks, and prescribed a series of medications to help boost his immune system so that maybe he would not get sick. The doctor made little impact, but paying for it AND the prescriptions and recommended products out of his own $$ that he was saving for a laptop was a big motivator. He was told to expect to do this after every time he spent time out of my sight with one of his "friends". Where logic, fear, and anger did not sway him, coughing up the cash to pay for his choices and their consequences DID. The boy makes his money scream for help because he is SO FRUGAL. I do not know what will help your son stop. It is an anxiety release for most kids. Like cutting it releases endorphins. The psychiatrist NEEDS to know. I would also tell him that it IS your business because he is your child and you are the mother. Period. Wiz had to adjust to me not budging on that. I eventually got a box of alcohol wipes. Told him if he liked pain I would help him. EVERY time I saw a new scab I would take the alcohol wipes and make him wipe off all the sores and scabs with it. No sense using peroxide, it doesn't hurt. The alcohol wipes are cheap, about $1.25 for 100 in the pharmacy. They are also great for taking sharpie and ballpoint ink off of things and cleaning glasses. This all stopped when he and my mom made a deal to both stop cutting. It was very hard for both of them. When stressed they fall back into wanting to do it and support each other to keep themselves from cutting. It IS anxiety/depression related. I am sorry that your son is hurting this much. [/QUOTE]
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