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Called the prison...could it be worse???
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 647722" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Oh, goodness. The hospital is just afraid of getting sued for the eye issue.</p><p></p><p>Your son doesn't have to be depressed and where he is. He could be working and productive. He is choosing his life. What can you do? Take care of him as he abuses you forever? I sure wouldn't let him come home. I would have told social worker, "Got an idea. YOU take him home since you're so worried about him." Your son is 29 years old. Why should he still be living in YOUR home? He knows right from wrong.</p><p></p><p>It's your decision, of course. I guess you can already figure out I'd probably have hung up on the social worker.</p><p></p><p>At your son's age, his life's story is written by him. His choices are leading to his problems. You can't control him. I see an impending disaster if you give in and take him back. And, as for your name on or off the list due to your son or other reasons (remember, we can't trust our adult children to be honest with us)...relax and take this time to focus on yourself and not him. You've already spend the best of your life worrying bout him. How about giving yourself some quality time to heal and do the things you always loved but stopped doing because you thought you could save your sons?</p><p></p><p>Visiting him will probably just stress you out and it won't help him. He will use the time to revert to little boy phrases, voice and face to get you to do things you know are better off not happening. Been there/done it. Your parents let you live at home after you were incarcerated at age 29? Would they have?</p><p></p><p>Hugs for your hurting heart.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 647722, member: 1550"] Oh, goodness. The hospital is just afraid of getting sued for the eye issue. Your son doesn't have to be depressed and where he is. He could be working and productive. He is choosing his life. What can you do? Take care of him as he abuses you forever? I sure wouldn't let him come home. I would have told social worker, "Got an idea. YOU take him home since you're so worried about him." Your son is 29 years old. Why should he still be living in YOUR home? He knows right from wrong. It's your decision, of course. I guess you can already figure out I'd probably have hung up on the social worker. At your son's age, his life's story is written by him. His choices are leading to his problems. You can't control him. I see an impending disaster if you give in and take him back. And, as for your name on or off the list due to your son or other reasons (remember, we can't trust our adult children to be honest with us)...relax and take this time to focus on yourself and not him. You've already spend the best of your life worrying bout him. How about giving yourself some quality time to heal and do the things you always loved but stopped doing because you thought you could save your sons? Visiting him will probably just stress you out and it won't help him. He will use the time to revert to little boy phrases, voice and face to get you to do things you know are better off not happening. Been there/done it. Your parents let you live at home after you were incarcerated at age 29? Would they have? Hugs for your hurting heart. [/QUOTE]
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