Holden welcome to the PE forum. I am sorry for the reason you are here but you have come to a place of encouragement, support and ideas for moving forward with your life and coping with the stress of a Difficult Child.
It sounds like you have been through the wringer with your son. I wish I could help you with a diagnosis but that is way above our pay grade here. We are parents who have walked the same path.
What have the professionals said about your son? When did you have him evaluated? What kind of drugs does he use?
You may be aware that drug use can cause everything you describe. And until that is arrested and he is in recovery from drug addiction or alcohol addiction, there is no way to identify a mental illness---whether he has one or not.
Can you provide more background about the steps you have taken with him?
How are you and your wife doing with all of this? Please know we are here for you. We understand and we care.
