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Can't go into psychiatric hospital and too sick to function without daily help. Any suggestions?
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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 307856" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>Fran <em>does</em> give some good advice. Don't let what <em>could be</em> dictate what is. It's so much easier for your son and daughter in law to take advantage and blame you when you are in a panic.</p><p></p><p>I don't think it's ever too late to tell your children something along the lines of "I'm sorry I got so involved in your mess. I really shouldn't have. I find it really upsetting and I can't do that to myself anymore because I need to be strong for me, and for you when you have worked this out. You're a grown up, and I know you can work this out. I'm sorry for your pain, but I know you have the tools to make this work, and I will be here if you need something tangible, but you must seek a marriage counselor for private advice. I can't do it anymore."</p><p></p><p>Stand up for yourself, and run like the dickens away from their marital problems. But don't run away from them. It's two different things. We don't dislike you here, not so far as I know. A lot of us <em>did</em> see this freight train coming down the tracks towards you, and you had your mommy blinders on. Take them off, and see the world. Their marriages are their own and you need to step out of the way. My marriage is a freight train out of control right now, too. But I'll get it back on track. It's helpful that I haven't put anyone else in the middle of it, because I don't have to perform to their standards or be angry at them because their advice didn't help. Stay out of it and work on your own happiness. Everyone deserves happiness, and no one else can find it for or give it to you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 307856, member: 99"] Fran [I]does[/I] give some good advice. Don't let what [I]could be[/I] dictate what is. It's so much easier for your son and daughter in law to take advantage and blame you when you are in a panic. I don't think it's ever too late to tell your children something along the lines of "I'm sorry I got so involved in your mess. I really shouldn't have. I find it really upsetting and I can't do that to myself anymore because I need to be strong for me, and for you when you have worked this out. You're a grown up, and I know you can work this out. I'm sorry for your pain, but I know you have the tools to make this work, and I will be here if you need something tangible, but you must seek a marriage counselor for private advice. I can't do it anymore." Stand up for yourself, and run like the dickens away from their marital problems. But don't run away from them. It's two different things. We don't dislike you here, not so far as I know. A lot of us [I]did[/I] see this freight train coming down the tracks towards you, and you had your mommy blinders on. Take them off, and see the world. Their marriages are their own and you need to step out of the way. My marriage is a freight train out of control right now, too. But I'll get it back on track. It's helpful that I haven't put anyone else in the middle of it, because I don't have to perform to their standards or be angry at them because their advice didn't help. Stay out of it and work on your own happiness. Everyone deserves happiness, and no one else can find it for or give it to you. [/QUOTE]
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