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Can't go into psychiatric hospital and too sick to function without daily help. Any suggestions?
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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 307875"><p>I'm so sorry you are hurting and I'm unsure of the context of the original post.</p><p></p><p>I can say a few general things...</p><p></p><p>I adopted my daughter (difficult child) partially because I was so desperate for a little girl. I was close to my mother and she died young. I'm an only "child." Life didn't turn out as I expected in any way along these fronts. Instead, there has been much strife and what I expect will be lifelong concerns. </p><p></p><p>I was very fortunate in that our son married a lovely girl...I have a nice daughter in law. However, they married recently and moved to another town and I rarely hear from her anymore...she is busy, etc. I am a bit forlorn.</p><p></p><p>Perhaps life is like this...certainly not as we expected.</p><p></p><p>Many losses...but the key is to move forward and to also learn to replace what we thought we had or hoped to have with other things and people.</p><p></p><p>Additionally, I have learned (not easily by any means) not to give my daughter so much power. Sometimes I am fooled...mostly because I want it sooo badly, that I almost imagine things are different. </p><p></p><p>If there is real evidence of a change...well that's difference. But, I can't count on it and I can't fabricate it.</p><p></p><p>Especially if your daughter in law is bitter, has significant problems of her own (and if I recall correctly...all of this things are the case), then I wouldn't concern yourself in the least if she doesn't care for you or is unkind to you. </p><p></p><p>Pay close attention to your spouse...as well as any children and good friends you have who are kind and loving...and you in return be loving and kind back.</p><p></p><p>Are you seeing your therapist regularly? Appointments will help you through your grief/loss.</p><p></p><p>In time and with effort, I do think you will feel better. Be sure to be kind to yourself...spend time doing things you enjoy and with people who are enjoyable.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 307875"] I'm so sorry you are hurting and I'm unsure of the context of the original post. I can say a few general things... I adopted my daughter (difficult child) partially because I was so desperate for a little girl. I was close to my mother and she died young. I'm an only "child." Life didn't turn out as I expected in any way along these fronts. Instead, there has been much strife and what I expect will be lifelong concerns. I was very fortunate in that our son married a lovely girl...I have a nice daughter in law. However, they married recently and moved to another town and I rarely hear from her anymore...she is busy, etc. I am a bit forlorn. Perhaps life is like this...certainly not as we expected. Many losses...but the key is to move forward and to also learn to replace what we thought we had or hoped to have with other things and people. Additionally, I have learned (not easily by any means) not to give my daughter so much power. Sometimes I am fooled...mostly because I want it sooo badly, that I almost imagine things are different. If there is real evidence of a change...well that's difference. But, I can't count on it and I can't fabricate it. Especially if your daughter in law is bitter, has significant problems of her own (and if I recall correctly...all of this things are the case), then I wouldn't concern yourself in the least if she doesn't care for you or is unkind to you. Pay close attention to your spouse...as well as any children and good friends you have who are kind and loving...and you in return be loving and kind back. Are you seeing your therapist regularly? Appointments will help you through your grief/loss. In time and with effort, I do think you will feel better. Be sure to be kind to yourself...spend time doing things you enjoy and with people who are enjoyable. [/QUOTE]
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