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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 203826" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>I haven't got much time, difficult child 3 & I should already be on the road, but I had to get on the computer to print out his past reports.</p><p></p><p>You've had some good suggestions so far. </p><p></p><p>There could be many possible reasons for these subjects being the ones where he is more anxious. He maybe wants to achieve better here because he prefers these subjects. He could be more anxious because of current topics within the subject, or it could be the teachers, or it could be the other students. Or it could be where in the school these classes are held - the shape of the corridor, the nearness or otherwise of the toilet block - there can be so many factors. Letting him out early or later could be a way around the bustle of the crowded corridor.</p><p></p><p>However, it does seem to me tat he needs support. And I was always told that support SHOULD NOT BE BASED ON RESULTS. If he needs support to transition fom class to class, then it doesn't matter if he's getting an A. Maybe if he was able to perform to his true ability, he might already be at university level. </p><p></p><p>difficult child 3 was never given extension work because the local school insisted he had to complete the standard class work first. Even when he had demonstrated proficiency with the regular work, they kept giving him the same stuff as the other kids, which always includes "do more examples). difficult child 3 wouldn't do it after a while because he was already good at it, he wanted new work. As a result, he didn't progress when he could have. He started school already doing simple maths when other kids weren't even reading.</p><p>difficult child 3, at school beginning in Kindergarten, was reading fluently, was doing maths. Academically, he was the brightest kid in the class. But because he had very obvious personal needs including support to stay in his seat, to stay on task, to behave appropriately - he needed an aide.</p><p></p><p>You son has anxiety issues and this alone should justify an aide at least in those situations where his anxiety is greatest.</p><p></p><p>talk to the principal again. Ask what it will take, who you have to approach and arm-twist, to get the aide. Point out that if difficult child is more anxious than he need be, purely due to lack of an aide, and some kid pushes him in the corridor and difficult child turns round and thumps out of fear and anxiety, WHO IS TO BLAME? Especially now you're putting the school on notice, that he has needs which are not being met.</p><p></p><p>This has nothing to do with academics. This is to do with difficult child's safety, and the safety of other students.</p><p></p><p>Put it in writing so the principal cannot at a later stage say he wasn't notified or warned. Also, even if the principal is supportive, put it in writing so he can use your letter to force the hands of those above him, in similar fashion.</p><p></p><p>Good luck.</p><p></p><p>We'd better hit the road - got to get into the city with difficult child 3, all reports are now printed and files sent. Yet one more example of why having good records and putting requests in writing, can really get you results.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 203826, member: 1991"] I haven't got much time, difficult child 3 & I should already be on the road, but I had to get on the computer to print out his past reports. You've had some good suggestions so far. There could be many possible reasons for these subjects being the ones where he is more anxious. He maybe wants to achieve better here because he prefers these subjects. He could be more anxious because of current topics within the subject, or it could be the teachers, or it could be the other students. Or it could be where in the school these classes are held - the shape of the corridor, the nearness or otherwise of the toilet block - there can be so many factors. Letting him out early or later could be a way around the bustle of the crowded corridor. However, it does seem to me tat he needs support. And I was always told that support SHOULD NOT BE BASED ON RESULTS. If he needs support to transition fom class to class, then it doesn't matter if he's getting an A. Maybe if he was able to perform to his true ability, he might already be at university level. difficult child 3 was never given extension work because the local school insisted he had to complete the standard class work first. Even when he had demonstrated proficiency with the regular work, they kept giving him the same stuff as the other kids, which always includes "do more examples). difficult child 3 wouldn't do it after a while because he was already good at it, he wanted new work. As a result, he didn't progress when he could have. He started school already doing simple maths when other kids weren't even reading. difficult child 3, at school beginning in Kindergarten, was reading fluently, was doing maths. Academically, he was the brightest kid in the class. But because he had very obvious personal needs including support to stay in his seat, to stay on task, to behave appropriately - he needed an aide. You son has anxiety issues and this alone should justify an aide at least in those situations where his anxiety is greatest. talk to the principal again. Ask what it will take, who you have to approach and arm-twist, to get the aide. Point out that if difficult child is more anxious than he need be, purely due to lack of an aide, and some kid pushes him in the corridor and difficult child turns round and thumps out of fear and anxiety, WHO IS TO BLAME? Especially now you're putting the school on notice, that he has needs which are not being met. This has nothing to do with academics. This is to do with difficult child's safety, and the safety of other students. Put it in writing so the principal cannot at a later stage say he wasn't notified or warned. Also, even if the principal is supportive, put it in writing so he can use your letter to force the hands of those above him, in similar fashion. Good luck. We'd better hit the road - got to get into the city with difficult child 3, all reports are now printed and files sent. Yet one more example of why having good records and putting requests in writing, can really get you results. Marg [/QUOTE]
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