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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 139721" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hi there.</p><p>Sadly, this child in my opinion should have been re-evaluated way before now. He probably should have seen a NeuroPsychcologist. They do intensive testing that regular psychologists and psychiatrists don't do, and they can often catch things that others miss. If this k id talks to himself day and night in my opinion there is a lot more wrong than ADHD/ODD. He could have a mood disorder and maybe be hallucinating auditorily or otherwise. He could also be on the high functiong end of the autism spectrum. Do you know anything about his early development, speech, his social skills? Do you know if he is using illegal drugs? That can wreak havoc with a teen. Will your husband consider having him re-evaluated by a neuropsychologist? I need to warn you that my daughter was once a drug addict and her drug of choice was Adderrall. She and her friends would crush it in pillcrushers and snort it with either alone or with other drugs, such as cocaine. Adderrall has a very high street value--my daughter said it is $10/pill, and is abused A LOT, as are all ADHD stimulants. If this child has a mood disorder, undiagnosed, rather than ADHD (and they mimic each other) Adderall won't help him--he will probably get worse. If the birthmom has mental health issues, he could have inherited the same ones and it doesn't help to put off getting him better help...good luck.</p><p>Actually, you're not a bad mother. You're not his mother at all. You're his stepmother, and you walked into this with no warning when he was already twelve. You had nothing to do with his upbringing or diagnoses or treatment. This is really in my opinion your husband's responsibility to try to both help his child and make your marriage better.</p><p>On the other hand, his son is part of the deal. You must have known what he was like and you signed up for it. I recommend trying to get your hub to get aggressive about finding out what's really wrong with his son before he's too old and his father can't do anything about it. If he's ignoring the problem, I would bring it to his attention. PRONTO.</p><p>I think you have a lot on your hands and your hub should step up and help more. Even nice men can be in denial about the problems with their kids. And it sounds like he's in denial. That will only hurt this boy in the long run. Time is running out. By 18, he can't do anything and this could spiral bigtime.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 139721, member: 1550"] Hi there. Sadly, this child in my opinion should have been re-evaluated way before now. He probably should have seen a NeuroPsychcologist. They do intensive testing that regular psychologists and psychiatrists don't do, and they can often catch things that others miss. If this k id talks to himself day and night in my opinion there is a lot more wrong than ADHD/ODD. He could have a mood disorder and maybe be hallucinating auditorily or otherwise. He could also be on the high functiong end of the autism spectrum. Do you know anything about his early development, speech, his social skills? Do you know if he is using illegal drugs? That can wreak havoc with a teen. Will your husband consider having him re-evaluated by a neuropsychologist? I need to warn you that my daughter was once a drug addict and her drug of choice was Adderrall. She and her friends would crush it in pillcrushers and snort it with either alone or with other drugs, such as cocaine. Adderrall has a very high street value--my daughter said it is $10/pill, and is abused A LOT, as are all ADHD stimulants. If this child has a mood disorder, undiagnosed, rather than ADHD (and they mimic each other) Adderall won't help him--he will probably get worse. If the birthmom has mental health issues, he could have inherited the same ones and it doesn't help to put off getting him better help...good luck. Actually, you're not a bad mother. You're not his mother at all. You're his stepmother, and you walked into this with no warning when he was already twelve. You had nothing to do with his upbringing or diagnoses or treatment. This is really in my opinion your husband's responsibility to try to both help his child and make your marriage better. On the other hand, his son is part of the deal. You must have known what he was like and you signed up for it. I recommend trying to get your hub to get aggressive about finding out what's really wrong with his son before he's too old and his father can't do anything about it. If he's ignoring the problem, I would bring it to his attention. PRONTO. I think you have a lot on your hands and your hub should step up and help more. Even nice men can be in denial about the problems with their kids. And it sounds like he's in denial. That will only hurt this boy in the long run. Time is running out. By 18, he can't do anything and this could spiral bigtime. [/QUOTE]
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