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<blockquote data-quote="Shiny" data-source="post: 139726" data-attributes="member: 4936"><p>He's never had a problem with speech -- he gets lots of practice, since he never shuts up. But he does talk unusually loud most of the time. </p><p></p><p>His social skills have been a big problem for all of his life. He doesn't make friends easily and has many enemies. Some of them don't mean to be his enemies, but when a peer innocently tries to joke with him he automatically labels them a bully. He often complained about bullies in school, but when we probed for more information it turned out that he assumed other kids were going to start something with him, so he preempted the "bullying" and started something with them. He often assumes people are talking bad about him, including us.</p><p></p><p>What few friends he has are usually much younger kids who don't mind his constant ordering them around. In his interactions with other kids I've never seen him express any sort of empathy for others. It's all about what he wants to do and how he wants it done. Others are there merely for his entertainment and for what they can buy him or give him.</p><p></p><p>It's interesting to see him interact with adults, too. He constantly wants attention and will just talk louder and repeat himself until all eyes are on him all the time. He jumps right into adult conversations as if invited -- not something I see a lot of kids doing. And then he tries to dominate the conversation, certain that everyone wants to hear the plot of his video game in great detail. His teachers complain that he also tries to dominate their attention, talking to them constantly about non-class related stuff. With both his teachers and with us he comes up with a question or something he thinks we need to know every five minutes -- always something trivial.</p><p></p><p>On illegal drugs, I'm certain he's not on them. He has an almost irrational fear and hatred of people who do drugs or drink. And we can barely get him to take his prescribed medications, not even antibiotics. </p><p></p><p>I did know what I was walking into. Mostly, at least. There's such a big difference being around him all the time instead of heading back to my apartment to recoup. I dated his dad for two years before we got married. I guess I just deluded myself into thinking that having a whole family and bringing some structure and stability to his life would help.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Shiny, post: 139726, member: 4936"] He's never had a problem with speech -- he gets lots of practice, since he never shuts up. But he does talk unusually loud most of the time. His social skills have been a big problem for all of his life. He doesn't make friends easily and has many enemies. Some of them don't mean to be his enemies, but when a peer innocently tries to joke with him he automatically labels them a bully. He often complained about bullies in school, but when we probed for more information it turned out that he assumed other kids were going to start something with him, so he preempted the "bullying" and started something with them. He often assumes people are talking bad about him, including us. What few friends he has are usually much younger kids who don't mind his constant ordering them around. In his interactions with other kids I've never seen him express any sort of empathy for others. It's all about what he wants to do and how he wants it done. Others are there merely for his entertainment and for what they can buy him or give him. It's interesting to see him interact with adults, too. He constantly wants attention and will just talk louder and repeat himself until all eyes are on him all the time. He jumps right into adult conversations as if invited -- not something I see a lot of kids doing. And then he tries to dominate the conversation, certain that everyone wants to hear the plot of his video game in great detail. His teachers complain that he also tries to dominate their attention, talking to them constantly about non-class related stuff. With both his teachers and with us he comes up with a question or something he thinks we need to know every five minutes -- always something trivial. On illegal drugs, I'm certain he's not on them. He has an almost irrational fear and hatred of people who do drugs or drink. And we can barely get him to take his prescribed medications, not even antibiotics. I did know what I was walking into. Mostly, at least. There's such a big difference being around him all the time instead of heading back to my apartment to recoup. I dated his dad for two years before we got married. I guess I just deluded myself into thinking that having a whole family and bringing some structure and stability to his life would help. [/QUOTE]
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