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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 80743" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>I'm not convinced it is your son who is the problem. It sounds like he is being singled out. When he finally gets sent to the office for breathing, it will be 100% confirmed. There are some teachers who just want the slow, difficult, needy kids out of their class and will do anything to make this happen. Maybe it is time to get him out of the classes that are constantly sending him to the office?</p><p></p><p>Middle school was the worst for my daughter. For the first two months of 7th grade, she was in the office every day. She was sent by the same two teachers daily. And, yes, she was actually sent to the office for breathing too heavily (she had a cold!). I finally insisted she be removed from these classes. </p><p></p><p>For us, it was a little too late. The damage had been done to her self-esteem and I'm not sure she ever truly recovered (blame by me, constant teaching by classmates, cruelty of the teachers). When it first started happening, I put the blame on my daughter, not the teachers. She'd always been difficult in class. If she didn't want to do something, there was no one on this planet who could get her to do it and she would do anything and everything to irritate those around her to get out of doing class work she considered boring. So, I gave her consequences, I punished, I yelled, I screamed and she was still being sent to the office. It took my friend intervening and really listening to my child to get me to understand this was not my daughter but the teachers who just wanted her out BEFORE she actually disrupted the class!</p><p></p><p>Having ADHD and being highly disorganized doesn't help these type of situations. Sometimes the best we can do is try to give our kids every tool we can think of to help them survive (mind you, I said survive, not succeed). I used to go to the school once a week and clean out my daughter's locker. Photocopies of homework not turned in would be put in the teacher's slot; the originals would be given to my daughter to give to the teachers. After straightening up the locker, I would leave a little something (note, treat, surprise) so that it was less of a mom checking up and more of a wow! look what mom left thing.</p><p></p><p>As to worrying you're not giving enough, like in every relationship there are times you give, there are times you take and there are times you share. I've seen you give a lot. I've seen you share when you've had problems and posted at the same time. Now is your time to take. Your friends, acquaintances and board members are here for you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 80743, member: 3626"] I'm not convinced it is your son who is the problem. It sounds like he is being singled out. When he finally gets sent to the office for breathing, it will be 100% confirmed. There are some teachers who just want the slow, difficult, needy kids out of their class and will do anything to make this happen. Maybe it is time to get him out of the classes that are constantly sending him to the office? Middle school was the worst for my daughter. For the first two months of 7th grade, she was in the office every day. She was sent by the same two teachers daily. And, yes, she was actually sent to the office for breathing too heavily (she had a cold!). I finally insisted she be removed from these classes. For us, it was a little too late. The damage had been done to her self-esteem and I'm not sure she ever truly recovered (blame by me, constant teaching by classmates, cruelty of the teachers). When it first started happening, I put the blame on my daughter, not the teachers. She'd always been difficult in class. If she didn't want to do something, there was no one on this planet who could get her to do it and she would do anything and everything to irritate those around her to get out of doing class work she considered boring. So, I gave her consequences, I punished, I yelled, I screamed and she was still being sent to the office. It took my friend intervening and really listening to my child to get me to understand this was not my daughter but the teachers who just wanted her out BEFORE she actually disrupted the class! Having ADHD and being highly disorganized doesn't help these type of situations. Sometimes the best we can do is try to give our kids every tool we can think of to help them survive (mind you, I said survive, not succeed). I used to go to the school once a week and clean out my daughter's locker. Photocopies of homework not turned in would be put in the teacher's slot; the originals would be given to my daughter to give to the teachers. After straightening up the locker, I would leave a little something (note, treat, surprise) so that it was less of a mom checking up and more of a wow! look what mom left thing. As to worrying you're not giving enough, like in every relationship there are times you give, there are times you take and there are times you share. I've seen you give a lot. I've seen you share when you've had problems and posted at the same time. Now is your time to take. Your friends, acquaintances and board members are here for you. [/QUOTE]
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