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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 536527" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Yes, I hear that you need the care and love directed at you, I'm happy to hear you say that. I understand that very well. I'm right here with you, I will offer you any assistance you require with my experience as you make these transitions, I know the path out, I really do. Remember this piece of wisdom someone shared with me, it's about faith, y<em>ou jump first and then you grow wings. You're doing that and it takes time </em>I completely understand the fear of letting go of where you are and walking into the unknown. It's a risk. You are moving through it now and because if your health issues and the pressure on you, you can see what it's all cost you.</p><p></p><p>I have to say this too, I am proud of you for quitting your job and having the incredible courage to recognize you had to do that. Wow. I am impressed. I believe you are doing all the right things, very similar to the very hard choices I had to make. And, you know what? Over time, over each agonizing choice, I got closer and closer to who I really am, closer to health, closer to joy and closer to the life I always wanted to live. Is it perfect? No. Did I make the right choices? Absolutely. I left a lucrative career which was depleting the life force out of me.It was hard. But like you I rested and read. I gathered my resources and kept making different choices, choices that reflected self love, a rather different point of view, and one which changed the course of my life. </p><p></p><p>Don't worry about tomorrow. Do exactly what you are doing and the next step will reveal itself when you're ready. Rest. Be compassionate with yourself. You are making an enormous internal shift which takes time and forces you to think each step through so you make a different choice now based on taking care of YOU first. You can do it. You have already demonstrated enormous courage by quitting your job and concentrating on<u> your</u> needs. You have the courage, no doubt about that, now it's time to change your thinking about yourself and your needs. Time spent caring for you, being kind to you, making your needs important, holding your own hand and telling yourself how precious and lovable you are, because you are. You, like me, didn't have anyone to mirror your unique and special wonderfulness to you as a child, but that doesn't mean it isn't there, it's just been hidden from YOU, and now you need to find it, which is exactly what you are doing.</p><p></p><p>I think you are doing all the right things to make major changes in your life. You have what it takes to do it. What you need is loving support and to develop within yourself the mothering towards yourself that you missed out on the first time around. You can learn to do that. I did. And, I can help you too. You can PM me anytime and talk about it, I am happy to support you any way I can. It's simply an invitation, you choose whether that would be helpful or not. Or keep posting here, I'll respond. Big giant mommy hugs are coming at you right now, the same ones that held me close. Open your heart to all the love there is for you, I found it to be amazing once I let go and let it in. So will you. It's your time now.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 536527, member: 13542"] Yes, I hear that you need the care and love directed at you, I'm happy to hear you say that. I understand that very well. I'm right here with you, I will offer you any assistance you require with my experience as you make these transitions, I know the path out, I really do. Remember this piece of wisdom someone shared with me, it's about faith, y[I]ou jump first and then you grow wings. You're doing that and it takes time [/I]I completely understand the fear of letting go of where you are and walking into the unknown. It's a risk. You are moving through it now and because if your health issues and the pressure on you, you can see what it's all cost you. I have to say this too, I am proud of you for quitting your job and having the incredible courage to recognize you had to do that. Wow. I am impressed. I believe you are doing all the right things, very similar to the very hard choices I had to make. And, you know what? Over time, over each agonizing choice, I got closer and closer to who I really am, closer to health, closer to joy and closer to the life I always wanted to live. Is it perfect? No. Did I make the right choices? Absolutely. I left a lucrative career which was depleting the life force out of me.It was hard. But like you I rested and read. I gathered my resources and kept making different choices, choices that reflected self love, a rather different point of view, and one which changed the course of my life. Don't worry about tomorrow. Do exactly what you are doing and the next step will reveal itself when you're ready. Rest. Be compassionate with yourself. You are making an enormous internal shift which takes time and forces you to think each step through so you make a different choice now based on taking care of YOU first. You can do it. You have already demonstrated enormous courage by quitting your job and concentrating on[U] your[/U] needs. You have the courage, no doubt about that, now it's time to change your thinking about yourself and your needs. Time spent caring for you, being kind to you, making your needs important, holding your own hand and telling yourself how precious and lovable you are, because you are. You, like me, didn't have anyone to mirror your unique and special wonderfulness to you as a child, but that doesn't mean it isn't there, it's just been hidden from YOU, and now you need to find it, which is exactly what you are doing. I think you are doing all the right things to make major changes in your life. You have what it takes to do it. What you need is loving support and to develop within yourself the mothering towards yourself that you missed out on the first time around. You can learn to do that. I did. And, I can help you too. You can PM me anytime and talk about it, I am happy to support you any way I can. It's simply an invitation, you choose whether that would be helpful or not. Or keep posting here, I'll respond. Big giant mommy hugs are coming at you right now, the same ones that held me close. Open your heart to all the love there is for you, I found it to be amazing once I let go and let it in. So will you. It's your time now. [/QUOTE]
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