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<blockquote data-quote="Mattsmom277" data-source="post: 447361" data-attributes="member: 4264"><p>Ugh, its the little things that can make it or break it with visitation and custody issues isn't it? I'm sorry this is just another thing to adapt everyone elses schedule for without even decency on how it was approached and requested (or perhaps ordered is a better word).</p><p></p><p>It can be hard enough to mesh two families schedule for the best of a child without adding needless pettiness to it. I feel for you. I went through it for the first couple of years with easy child's dad and his new wife. It was such stupid pettiness. There was a time if he was 15,10,5 minutes early, they would park the car around the corner. At one minute to the appointed return home time, they'd drive around the corner to my driveway. I always wondered how they timed it to the MINUTE every single return day. Until difficult child noticed it a few times when he was out playing in the neighborhood. I finally said something to easy child's father when he returned her one day on a day difficult child came home to say they are around the corner AGAIN. Told him it was the height of silly for all people in the car (him, his wife, especially my easy child) and when she got old enough to realize why it was going to send messages we had no right to send to her as her parents. Eventually all the other silliness ended too. We have no problem (both sides) changing schedules but we always give one each other the disclaimer of only if the change works for both sides. Sometimes her dad still struggles and once in a while i have to gently remind him this is all about easy child and not he nor I or our spouses. But its rare and doesn't lead to blow ups, with the exception of last year when a simple day change led to koi about going to court. It upset me enough to have a blow out email fired off to squash that QUICK because no way in hades was I returning to that ridiculous behavior pattern. He got it, never responded to me but apologized to easy child which was the important part anyhow. I am thankful for the ease of her visits to him. The stress when it was bad is unbelievable. </p><p></p><p>I'm glad you and husband are level headed about it but sorry that it is so stress inducing so regularly. The phrase "you can't fix stupid" comes to mind when I read of that womans approach to working with you all (or not as is often the case).</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mattsmom277, post: 447361, member: 4264"] Ugh, its the little things that can make it or break it with visitation and custody issues isn't it? I'm sorry this is just another thing to adapt everyone elses schedule for without even decency on how it was approached and requested (or perhaps ordered is a better word). It can be hard enough to mesh two families schedule for the best of a child without adding needless pettiness to it. I feel for you. I went through it for the first couple of years with easy child's dad and his new wife. It was such stupid pettiness. There was a time if he was 15,10,5 minutes early, they would park the car around the corner. At one minute to the appointed return home time, they'd drive around the corner to my driveway. I always wondered how they timed it to the MINUTE every single return day. Until difficult child noticed it a few times when he was out playing in the neighborhood. I finally said something to easy child's father when he returned her one day on a day difficult child came home to say they are around the corner AGAIN. Told him it was the height of silly for all people in the car (him, his wife, especially my easy child) and when she got old enough to realize why it was going to send messages we had no right to send to her as her parents. Eventually all the other silliness ended too. We have no problem (both sides) changing schedules but we always give one each other the disclaimer of only if the change works for both sides. Sometimes her dad still struggles and once in a while i have to gently remind him this is all about easy child and not he nor I or our spouses. But its rare and doesn't lead to blow ups, with the exception of last year when a simple day change led to koi about going to court. It upset me enough to have a blow out email fired off to squash that QUICK because no way in hades was I returning to that ridiculous behavior pattern. He got it, never responded to me but apologized to easy child which was the important part anyhow. I am thankful for the ease of her visits to him. The stress when it was bad is unbelievable. I'm glad you and husband are level headed about it but sorry that it is so stress inducing so regularly. The phrase "you can't fix stupid" comes to mind when I read of that womans approach to working with you all (or not as is often the case). [/QUOTE]
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