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<blockquote data-quote="dreamer" data-source="post: 143127" data-attributes="member: 1697"><p>klmno- I agree with you I spent far too much time and energy defending difficult child over injustices with how things were written in files or how they were handled etc.and yes, way too often rather than anything being any kind of learning experience for difficult child, it instead became a matter of clarification instead. </p><p>I do think many schools DO hold identified difficult children to different standards, and while some might say a school holds a difficult child to a lower standard, my experience has been they are held to HIGHER standards..scrutinized far more rigourously. punished more severely and far more quickly. and it reached a point in my difficult child that altho she had never been aggressive or violent, she merely had panic attacks-----she wound up being punished so heavily and so severely, inccluding school trying to send her to an alternate school where all the kids were searched before entrance each morning and every classorom had a "time out cell" in it- a windowless soundproofed empty closet like space. 2+ hours by bus from home. Now HOW does THAT help her gain mastery over panic attacks and anxiety? </p><p></p><p>My son could not read or write....even in grade 6, and I requested he not be passed on to middle school, becuz middle school told me in advance they would not do anything to help him, if he did not know how he should not advance. School refused to advance him and tried to give detentions and suspensions, saying THAT would teach him to read and write. (no, actually the letters etc I had from neuro and ortho and psychiatric etc all said Occupational Therapist (OT) and PT would help him) </p><p></p><p>You walk in the hall at our HS here and you hear the cuzz words - like the one like heck and the one similar to poop------nonstop- BUT let a difficult child who has an IEP say it no matter WHY they said it or when- and you will see those kids suspended on the spot. Noone pays any attention when the non IEP kids at our HS say it. </p><p>WEapon? OMG our school even HS the kids are only allowed plastic sporks, nothing else, even if they brown bag from home. strings on jacket hoods are now even considered a weapon. </p><p></p><p>it all boggles my mind. school is NOTHING like when I went. </p><p>The graduation rate? Maybe if they would stop psuhing and nudgeing and encourageing kids out the door, some might stay and graduate. Not one signle kid who was in Special Education when my oldest was made it to graduation. Not one. ALl her classmates from middle school got transferred out to alternate schools etc before freshman year ended.....and as soon as they came back to the HS< they got transferred out again. NONE of our Special Education kids were allowed to participate in ANY electives or extra curricullars, nor attend any sport events etc. DId not matter WHY they were in Special Education. I cannot tell you how many teachers I have caught thru the years grabbig my kids and shaking them, screaming in their face yelling at them.....talking on their own cell phones IN class......emailing personal email dureing class time.....nope, kids here do NOT want to hang around till graduation. and I am not even innner city. HA! our school supposedly is one of the more desired districts around. give me a break.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dreamer, post: 143127, member: 1697"] klmno- I agree with you I spent far too much time and energy defending difficult child over injustices with how things were written in files or how they were handled etc.and yes, way too often rather than anything being any kind of learning experience for difficult child, it instead became a matter of clarification instead. I do think many schools DO hold identified difficult children to different standards, and while some might say a school holds a difficult child to a lower standard, my experience has been they are held to HIGHER standards..scrutinized far more rigourously. punished more severely and far more quickly. and it reached a point in my difficult child that altho she had never been aggressive or violent, she merely had panic attacks-----she wound up being punished so heavily and so severely, inccluding school trying to send her to an alternate school where all the kids were searched before entrance each morning and every classorom had a "time out cell" in it- a windowless soundproofed empty closet like space. 2+ hours by bus from home. Now HOW does THAT help her gain mastery over panic attacks and anxiety? My son could not read or write....even in grade 6, and I requested he not be passed on to middle school, becuz middle school told me in advance they would not do anything to help him, if he did not know how he should not advance. School refused to advance him and tried to give detentions and suspensions, saying THAT would teach him to read and write. (no, actually the letters etc I had from neuro and ortho and psychiatric etc all said Occupational Therapist (OT) and PT would help him) You walk in the hall at our HS here and you hear the cuzz words - like the one like heck and the one similar to poop------nonstop- BUT let a difficult child who has an IEP say it no matter WHY they said it or when- and you will see those kids suspended on the spot. Noone pays any attention when the non IEP kids at our HS say it. WEapon? OMG our school even HS the kids are only allowed plastic sporks, nothing else, even if they brown bag from home. strings on jacket hoods are now even considered a weapon. it all boggles my mind. school is NOTHING like when I went. The graduation rate? Maybe if they would stop psuhing and nudgeing and encourageing kids out the door, some might stay and graduate. Not one signle kid who was in Special Education when my oldest was made it to graduation. Not one. ALl her classmates from middle school got transferred out to alternate schools etc before freshman year ended.....and as soon as they came back to the HS< they got transferred out again. NONE of our Special Education kids were allowed to participate in ANY electives or extra curricullars, nor attend any sport events etc. DId not matter WHY they were in Special Education. I cannot tell you how many teachers I have caught thru the years grabbig my kids and shaking them, screaming in their face yelling at them.....talking on their own cell phones IN class......emailing personal email dureing class time.....nope, kids here do NOT want to hang around till graduation. and I am not even innner city. HA! our school supposedly is one of the more desired districts around. give me a break. [/QUOTE]
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