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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 671626" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>When our children were young, we learned to sacrifice time and energy for them. We turn our focus to rearing them. I think this sense of sacrifice continues when things become difficult to a different level. An unhealthy one.</p><p> The guilt of it, the searching for answers and accepting blame. I viewed and reviewed my parenting, the mistakes I made. Then came the need to fix it.</p><p></p><p> Yes, to be able to recognize this and step aside. To let our adult children take responsibility for their choices. This was difficult for me, because my two were constantly reminding me of what I <em>didn't </em>do. Although we have volumes of photo albums of what we did do.</p><p></p><p> That is wonderful Copa. You are cultivating a closer relationship with M's sister.</p><p><span style="font-size: 15px"><strong><a href="http://lakenvelder.blogspot.com/2006/05/ike-aku-ike-mai-kokua-aku-kokua-mai.html" target="_blank">'Ike aku, 'ike mai, kokua aku kokua mai; pela iho la ka nohana 'ohana.</a></strong></span></p><p>Translation: Recognize others, be recognized, help others, be helped; such is a family relationship</p><p> This is awesome Copa, I am so happy for you. You are taking these purchases and making much meaning out of them, this plan with M's sister.</p><p></p><p> This is such a well thought out plan. Keeping the hands and mind busy creating. I am excited to follow along with your progress.</p><p></p><p></p><p>I do not think this to be negative or condescending at all. It is quite brilliant, really. You know the inner workings of M and are using good judgement to ensure a smooth beginning of your endeavor. This is what I think we are talking about in cultivating love. Taking the time to think about how we can preserve our relationship. Sometimes that means anticipating what all of the variables are according to experience, and finding ways to circumvent possible obstacles.</p><p></p><p> M must be happy to see the two of you working together.</p><p></p><p> It is good to be able to see the value in the effort others put in, and to honor that. Cedar was talking about having integrity. I think this is essential in any relationship.</p><p></p><p> Oh Copa, you have had such a good day. This makes me very happy, to read of it.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Yes, I am grateful as well to all of my warrior sisters, I feel the same way Copa. There are not words to express my tender affection and heartfelt thanks for the encouragement.</p><p></p><p>Thank you</p><p>leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 671626, member: 19522"] When our children were young, we learned to sacrifice time and energy for them. We turn our focus to rearing them. I think this sense of sacrifice continues when things become difficult to a different level. An unhealthy one. The guilt of it, the searching for answers and accepting blame. I viewed and reviewed my parenting, the mistakes I made. Then came the need to fix it. Yes, to be able to recognize this and step aside. To let our adult children take responsibility for their choices. This was difficult for me, because my two were constantly reminding me of what I [I]didn't [/I]do. Although we have volumes of photo albums of what we did do. That is wonderful Copa. You are cultivating a closer relationship with M's sister. [SIZE=4][B][URL='http://lakenvelder.blogspot.com/2006/05/ike-aku-ike-mai-kokua-aku-kokua-mai.html']'Ike aku, 'ike mai, kokua aku kokua mai; pela iho la ka nohana 'ohana.[/URL][/B][/SIZE] Translation: Recognize others, be recognized, help others, be helped; such is a family relationship This is awesome Copa, I am so happy for you. You are taking these purchases and making much meaning out of them, this plan with M's sister. This is such a well thought out plan. Keeping the hands and mind busy creating. I am excited to follow along with your progress. I do not think this to be negative or condescending at all. It is quite brilliant, really. You know the inner workings of M and are using good judgement to ensure a smooth beginning of your endeavor. This is what I think we are talking about in cultivating love. Taking the time to think about how we can preserve our relationship. Sometimes that means anticipating what all of the variables are according to experience, and finding ways to circumvent possible obstacles. M must be happy to see the two of you working together. It is good to be able to see the value in the effort others put in, and to honor that. Cedar was talking about having integrity. I think this is essential in any relationship. Oh Copa, you have had such a good day. This makes me very happy, to read of it. Yes, I am grateful as well to all of my warrior sisters, I feel the same way Copa. There are not words to express my tender affection and heartfelt thanks for the encouragement. Thank you leafy [/QUOTE]
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