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<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 425354" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>I do understand, exhausted. Really. Your feelings are very normal and natural. Inevitable probably. The only thing is that it wouldn't "do" for them to become permanent - for you, I mean. Because your life is your life and the wisest thing to do about that is, as Star says, of course to accept it as fully and deeply as you can. There is a Buddhist practice in which, if one is in a dreadful place of adversity, loss, misfortune, one connects to the suffering of others who are in deep distress. And there are of course many. It is actually very powerful a practice because compassion for others is a very dynamic, living, "bright" force that takes us out of the dark hell of our own misery...</p><p>Something I do for myself also is to train in not comparing, not judging, J against other children... because that way lies only stress and madness <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> Accepting him as he is, or at least trying to, I find all sorts of hidden gold. It is difficult for you because you are with these seemingly model children all day - must feel very tormenting sometimes! But there is also a superficiality to having things nice, easy, straightforward all the time. We are taken to profounder ground!! </p><p>Hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 425354, member: 11227"] I do understand, exhausted. Really. Your feelings are very normal and natural. Inevitable probably. The only thing is that it wouldn't "do" for them to become permanent - for you, I mean. Because your life is your life and the wisest thing to do about that is, as Star says, of course to accept it as fully and deeply as you can. There is a Buddhist practice in which, if one is in a dreadful place of adversity, loss, misfortune, one connects to the suffering of others who are in deep distress. And there are of course many. It is actually very powerful a practice because compassion for others is a very dynamic, living, "bright" force that takes us out of the dark hell of our own misery... Something I do for myself also is to train in not comparing, not judging, J against other children... because that way lies only stress and madness :-) Accepting him as he is, or at least trying to, I find all sorts of hidden gold. It is difficult for you because you are with these seemingly model children all day - must feel very tormenting sometimes! But there is also a superficiality to having things nice, easy, straightforward all the time. We are taken to profounder ground!! Hugs. [/QUOTE]
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