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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 425357" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>It is hard when this realisation hits. You grieve because your child is not like the others. You wish your child DID have those same problems as her worst concern.</p><p></p><p>Tattoo on your forehead in letters of fire - DO NOT COMPARE. My pain is not your pain. The emotions felt by these other kids are just as real, just as extreme sometimes, as the pain you and your child feel. The pain is just as legitimate. Try to not let resentment add to your pain.</p><p></p><p>I know it's a tall order, it is difficult to not let it get to you. But really - it will only make you feel worse. I am glad (as I suspect are you) that you did not yell at that other kid - you would have felt terrible and it would have achieved absolutely nothing. But how do you cope with this grief you feel without it tearing you apart?</p><p></p><p>Maybe the first step is to have another look at your child and change your priorities. Realise tat the usual dreams need to be let go. More grieving needed. But once you can work through this, there IS joy on the other side. Probably hard to believe right now. But once you can let go of your resentment, what will be left inside you will be a far deeper compassion for all the other students you deal with. Because you know what pain is, you can sympathise with others in pain.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 425357, member: 1991"] It is hard when this realisation hits. You grieve because your child is not like the others. You wish your child DID have those same problems as her worst concern. Tattoo on your forehead in letters of fire - DO NOT COMPARE. My pain is not your pain. The emotions felt by these other kids are just as real, just as extreme sometimes, as the pain you and your child feel. The pain is just as legitimate. Try to not let resentment add to your pain. I know it's a tall order, it is difficult to not let it get to you. But really - it will only make you feel worse. I am glad (as I suspect are you) that you did not yell at that other kid - you would have felt terrible and it would have achieved absolutely nothing. But how do you cope with this grief you feel without it tearing you apart? Maybe the first step is to have another look at your child and change your priorities. Realise tat the usual dreams need to be let go. More grieving needed. But once you can work through this, there IS joy on the other side. Probably hard to believe right now. But once you can let go of your resentment, what will be left inside you will be a far deeper compassion for all the other students you deal with. Because you know what pain is, you can sympathise with others in pain. Marg [/QUOTE]
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