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<blockquote data-quote="exhausted" data-source="post: 425976" data-attributes="member: 11001"><p>Isn't it so-they can grow into wonderful human beings. My 23 year old is twice the man his friends are. He is the leader and responsible one. He is so much more aware of himself and others. I had a psychiatrist at the preschool we sent him to tell me he would never make it in public school-he did and graduated early! If I could, I'd call the fellow and rip him ( I can't believe I'm still peaved over that). My boy has accomplished more than any "normal" kid as he had to overcome great odds. I believe my daughter will as well-she'll need longer as her wounds are deeper. I even had the judge look at me in court, almost 3 weeks ago and say, " Mom I know hope springs eternal, but just look at this psychiatric report." And then in the next breath tell me her running behavior was not due to mental illness, but her wanting to go out and be perpetrated on! Needless to say I sent him the care package from "Lost at School" and the "Explosive Child" and some research on PTSD and personality disorders. The NAMI people are sending him some stuff as well. </p><p> </p><p>I actually tell other teachers in my building they have no right critisizing the parents of disabled kids. "Unless you have raised one just like the one they are trying to raise on their resources, you need to be quiet. Your job is to do the best job you can at school!" Interesting they often come and ask for advise from me (I am also the senior teacher so that helps). People can be educated.</p><p> </p><p>As far as friends and family go, I lay it out. If they don't adjust we stay away. My husband has a big family (dominant Utah religion)-the gatherings were so over- stimulating for my son we had to keep them short. Mother in law confronted me for always leaving early, and then was also the first to lay into my boy when he was wound up. After much work with her-I gave up. We pulled away. We told them that being with the family was damaging for our child and for us. If they wanted to see us, they would have to come to us. They chose not to. My daughter hardly knows her grandparents. But this is a good thing as they would destoy the string her self esteem hangs from. So if people choose not to be educated, they do not get to be part of our kids' life. </p><p> </p><p>As for that Facebook post- I hope the day will come when we can post how proud we are that our 10 year old picked up her room or our 5 year old didn't throw a tantrum for the first time when told "no".</p><p> </p><p>Today, I reflected on my children's accomplishments and the fact that I am alive and havent died of exhaustion. I felt no envy. Day by day, I'm going to try!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="exhausted, post: 425976, member: 11001"] Isn't it so-they can grow into wonderful human beings. My 23 year old is twice the man his friends are. He is the leader and responsible one. He is so much more aware of himself and others. I had a psychiatrist at the preschool we sent him to tell me he would never make it in public school-he did and graduated early! If I could, I'd call the fellow and rip him ( I can't believe I'm still peaved over that). My boy has accomplished more than any "normal" kid as he had to overcome great odds. I believe my daughter will as well-she'll need longer as her wounds are deeper. I even had the judge look at me in court, almost 3 weeks ago and say, " Mom I know hope springs eternal, but just look at this psychiatric report." And then in the next breath tell me her running behavior was not due to mental illness, but her wanting to go out and be perpetrated on! Needless to say I sent him the care package from "Lost at School" and the "Explosive Child" and some research on PTSD and personality disorders. The NAMI people are sending him some stuff as well. I actually tell other teachers in my building they have no right critisizing the parents of disabled kids. "Unless you have raised one just like the one they are trying to raise on their resources, you need to be quiet. Your job is to do the best job you can at school!" Interesting they often come and ask for advise from me (I am also the senior teacher so that helps). People can be educated. As far as friends and family go, I lay it out. If they don't adjust we stay away. My husband has a big family (dominant Utah religion)-the gatherings were so over- stimulating for my son we had to keep them short. Mother in law confronted me for always leaving early, and then was also the first to lay into my boy when he was wound up. After much work with her-I gave up. We pulled away. We told them that being with the family was damaging for our child and for us. If they wanted to see us, they would have to come to us. They chose not to. My daughter hardly knows her grandparents. But this is a good thing as they would destoy the string her self esteem hangs from. So if people choose not to be educated, they do not get to be part of our kids' life. As for that Facebook post- I hope the day will come when we can post how proud we are that our 10 year old picked up her room or our 5 year old didn't throw a tantrum for the first time when told "no". Today, I reflected on my children's accomplishments and the fact that I am alive and havent died of exhaustion. I felt no envy. Day by day, I'm going to try! [/QUOTE]
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