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<blockquote data-quote="idohope" data-source="post: 426106" data-attributes="member: 7722"><p>A thread that has obviously hit home. We are only human how could we not wish that things were different when we show up at the science fair and there are all the smiling proud parents and we arrive ½ hour late with a difficult child who has obviously been crying and it has taken us 1 hour to get her in the car and every chair in the house is overturned etc. Sure I am proud when she actually makes it there and sets up her display. I am proud of her and a little proud of myself. I survived, I stayed calm, I did not cry, I did not yell, I (think) I made the situation better and not worse and I am glad that she has me. But I am also exhausted and fried and sometimes a little jealous or wistful and definitely wishing for difficult child that these were not the cards that she was dealt.</p><p></p><p> And I want to tell the teachers and the parents: 'Wow for someone with an anxiety disorder it is amazing that she is here'. But difficult child is in denial herself and wants to appear normal and everyone has rights regarding privacy of medical conditions and so I do not say anything. </p><p> </p><p>But I also remember that we do not actually know what is happening behind the scenes in anyone's life. On multiple occasions parents have told me that they wish their children were more like difficult child. I thank them and in my head think 'Be careful what you wish for'. They see her doing things in her public persona but do not see the rages and anxiety and inability to function that her family bears the brunt of. </p><p></p><p>I think it would be good for you to talk about these feelings in therapy. You seem very aware of the logical response versus the emotional but talking about your emotional response (which I think is a natural human response) would be beneficil (If this board and these responses many of which are amazing is not enough).</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="idohope, post: 426106, member: 7722"] A thread that has obviously hit home. We are only human how could we not wish that things were different when we show up at the science fair and there are all the smiling proud parents and we arrive ½ hour late with a difficult child who has obviously been crying and it has taken us 1 hour to get her in the car and every chair in the house is overturned etc. Sure I am proud when she actually makes it there and sets up her display. I am proud of her and a little proud of myself. I survived, I stayed calm, I did not cry, I did not yell, I (think) I made the situation better and not worse and I am glad that she has me. But I am also exhausted and fried and sometimes a little jealous or wistful and definitely wishing for difficult child that these were not the cards that she was dealt. And I want to tell the teachers and the parents: 'Wow for someone with an anxiety disorder it is amazing that she is here'. But difficult child is in denial herself and wants to appear normal and everyone has rights regarding privacy of medical conditions and so I do not say anything. But I also remember that we do not actually know what is happening behind the scenes in anyone's life. On multiple occasions parents have told me that they wish their children were more like difficult child. I thank them and in my head think 'Be careful what you wish for'. They see her doing things in her public persona but do not see the rages and anxiety and inability to function that her family bears the brunt of. I think it would be good for you to talk about these feelings in therapy. You seem very aware of the logical response versus the emotional but talking about your emotional response (which I think is a natural human response) would be beneficil (If this board and these responses many of which are amazing is not enough). [/QUOTE]
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