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Child support issue. I don't know what to do!!!
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<blockquote data-quote="TeDo" data-source="post: 527546"><p>I really had to jump in on this one, having been there done that. Do NOT drop the case. He can promise you the moon but you have no ability to enforce it if he backs out. In court, tell them about the offer he made to you. If he can afford to pay that much extra AS PROMISED, then he will have to pay EVERYONE what he owes them. The only reason he wants you to drop it is so he can CONTROL what he has to pay. He wants his cake and eat it too and CONTROL who gets the leftovers. </p><p></p><p>I know how hard it is to struggle around child support. My ex was an independent contractor and promised me the moon but after 3 months decided he couldn't "afford" to pay the amount he promised me so he stopped paying support altogether. THAT was worse. I opened a case and now (12 years later), because of the laws here, he has spent time in jail and had his driver's license taken away because he is now over $60,000 in debt to me and the state. Would you rather have a steady income or one that is at his mercy? SO FAR he has paid. Are you willing to GAMBLE that he continues being responsible and "generous" enough to continue paying? Personally, I gambled and lost.</p><p></p><p>I really do understand the need for more money and really wanting to trust him to give you the increase but unless you are 1000% positive he will ALWAYS continue to do that, you're gambling. I guess it all depends on what you are willing to give up if he suddenly changes his mind. That's you're call. Me, I don't take ANY chances when it comes to my kids and their ability to have the basic necessities without having to scrape the barrel to get them. It really is your call.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TeDo, post: 527546"] I really had to jump in on this one, having been there done that. Do NOT drop the case. He can promise you the moon but you have no ability to enforce it if he backs out. In court, tell them about the offer he made to you. If he can afford to pay that much extra AS PROMISED, then he will have to pay EVERYONE what he owes them. The only reason he wants you to drop it is so he can CONTROL what he has to pay. He wants his cake and eat it too and CONTROL who gets the leftovers. I know how hard it is to struggle around child support. My ex was an independent contractor and promised me the moon but after 3 months decided he couldn't "afford" to pay the amount he promised me so he stopped paying support altogether. THAT was worse. I opened a case and now (12 years later), because of the laws here, he has spent time in jail and had his driver's license taken away because he is now over $60,000 in debt to me and the state. Would you rather have a steady income or one that is at his mercy? SO FAR he has paid. Are you willing to GAMBLE that he continues being responsible and "generous" enough to continue paying? Personally, I gambled and lost. I really do understand the need for more money and really wanting to trust him to give you the increase but unless you are 1000% positive he will ALWAYS continue to do that, you're gambling. I guess it all depends on what you are willing to give up if he suddenly changes his mind. That's you're call. Me, I don't take ANY chances when it comes to my kids and their ability to have the basic necessities without having to scrape the barrel to get them. It really is your call. [/QUOTE]
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