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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 307005" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>I'd say the boy would have to talk to a lawyer. I'd imagine it would depend on the laws in the state.</p><p> </p><p>At 18 I could've sued my Dad for child support. (18 years worth) I don't remember who told me I had this option....I'm thinking it was someone with a legal background cuz my Mom most certainly would never have known about such things.....but evidently back then in Illinois you could do such a thing.</p><p> </p><p>Now my bio Dad is a nice guy overall, he just had a serious problem keeping his pants zippered. And he wasn't so much into relationships either. But he didn't pay my Mom one dime of childsupport for 5 kids for 18 yrs. (I'm the youngest) Even when Mom had him thrown into jail for a year. Once he was out, he moved out of state and stayed there. Back then......they didn't go looking for you when you did that.</p><p> </p><p>Yeah. I think I thought about it for like 2 seconds before I cracked up laughing. Sure I could do that, waste my time and money, and still get absolutely nothing. My biodad had nothing, still has nothing......and will forever have nothing. Suing him isn't gonna change that.</p><p> </p><p>And with Dude......there is all that other bagage to go along with it.</p><p> </p><p>Probably it would be much more therapudic for Dude to simply write the man a nice long letter about how he honestly feels about the man and his parenting skills, ect. </p><p> </p><p>I would imagine Dude would have to foot the bill for the lawyer and the law suit. He'd probably win..........on paper. In reality, he'd get nothing but alot of unwanted grief.</p><p> </p><p>There comes a point when a kid has to look at their parent and realize that they don't have super powers, that they're just as human and fallible as everyone else on earth. And when that parent happens to hoover in the parent dept........well, you've got to make peace with that and move on.</p><p> </p><p>I have no anger toward my biodad. I can sit and visit with him and enjoy myself. But he is who he is......and nothing I will ever do will change that.</p><p> </p><p>Even on the very slim chance Dude would be able to get child support from this guy........does he really want whatever else may come with that package?</p><p> </p><p>I'm thinking some buddy planted this idea.......thinking maybe it was a way for easy money......without knowing much about Dude's background? </p><p> </p><p>Maybe it would work on someone who was working a good job and raking in the cash.......guess they could garnish wages if necessary......</p><p> </p><p>Actually, I'm surprised you were able to get them to leave biodad out of the picture for child support. My brother had that put into his divorce and they came back 10 yrs later and demanded he not only pay.......but pay for those 10 yrs as well. He'll be paying until the day he dies.</p><p> </p><p>His kids don't seem any happier because of it.</p><p> </p><p>Just maybe some things for Dude to consider. Cuz I care about him.</p><p> </p><p>Hugs</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 307005, member: 84"] I'd say the boy would have to talk to a lawyer. I'd imagine it would depend on the laws in the state. At 18 I could've sued my Dad for child support. (18 years worth) I don't remember who told me I had this option....I'm thinking it was someone with a legal background cuz my Mom most certainly would never have known about such things.....but evidently back then in Illinois you could do such a thing. Now my bio Dad is a nice guy overall, he just had a serious problem keeping his pants zippered. And he wasn't so much into relationships either. But he didn't pay my Mom one dime of childsupport for 5 kids for 18 yrs. (I'm the youngest) Even when Mom had him thrown into jail for a year. Once he was out, he moved out of state and stayed there. Back then......they didn't go looking for you when you did that. Yeah. I think I thought about it for like 2 seconds before I cracked up laughing. Sure I could do that, waste my time and money, and still get absolutely nothing. My biodad had nothing, still has nothing......and will forever have nothing. Suing him isn't gonna change that. And with Dude......there is all that other bagage to go along with it. Probably it would be much more therapudic for Dude to simply write the man a nice long letter about how he honestly feels about the man and his parenting skills, ect. I would imagine Dude would have to foot the bill for the lawyer and the law suit. He'd probably win..........on paper. In reality, he'd get nothing but alot of unwanted grief. There comes a point when a kid has to look at their parent and realize that they don't have super powers, that they're just as human and fallible as everyone else on earth. And when that parent happens to hoover in the parent dept........well, you've got to make peace with that and move on. I have no anger toward my biodad. I can sit and visit with him and enjoy myself. But he is who he is......and nothing I will ever do will change that. Even on the very slim chance Dude would be able to get child support from this guy........does he really want whatever else may come with that package? I'm thinking some buddy planted this idea.......thinking maybe it was a way for easy money......without knowing much about Dude's background? Maybe it would work on someone who was working a good job and raking in the cash.......guess they could garnish wages if necessary...... Actually, I'm surprised you were able to get them to leave biodad out of the picture for child support. My brother had that put into his divorce and they came back 10 yrs later and demanded he not only pay.......but pay for those 10 yrs as well. He'll be paying until the day he dies. His kids don't seem any happier because of it. Just maybe some things for Dude to consider. Cuz I care about him. Hugs [/QUOTE]
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