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<blockquote data-quote="Mamaof5" data-source="post: 401053"><p>You guys made me cry.</p><p></p><p>I did confront him. We spent 6 hours together working it out and he told all I already knew and rest I didn't. No physical, all emotional. It started in Yoville as a gaming thing with no meaning and was a situation that got out of hand. The OW knows about how I know. All his Yoville and IMVU friends know I know and he's not going to be playing Yoville for a long time and I let him keep the IMVU with major ground rules and I'm joining IMVU to take up an interest in his interests.</p><p></p><p>I was civil, surprisingly calm and didn't cry when I confronted him. I have this complex about crying in front of people, I can't stand doing it. So all isn't up to par because we have a lot of work to do but we're actually good right now. He got rid of her off of everything and anyone else I felt I didn't want on there, even got rid of the two FB accounts that we're fake (got rid of all the pictures, friends, everything first because he himself said you can only de-activate it but you can get rid of everything before you de-activate so he volunteered to do that on his own - shows me he is set in repairing the damage and working on it).</p><p></p><p>It started in Yoville on FB as a way to play the game with no meaning at all (still wrong, an under ground gaming set of unsaid rules about people looking for "virtual girlfriend\boyfriend Yoville characters, like creating a pretend community) and just got out of hand. I did see in key logger that when he says he got fed up with her taking it too far he would either ignore her advances or tell her to behave and stop it. He told the truth and I believe him that it was something that just got away on him and he didn't know how to fix the problem. He hid it because he didn't know how I would react. I've reacted badly to this kind of drama before in the past when a woman tried to step into "my territory" as the saying goes.. that time he wasn't at fault, that young lady was ...well...prowling and he'd told her he was married with kids several times and not interested. I went on the war path and even called her boyfriend and told him what she was doing and ripped her a new one badly so yeah I can see him being scared that I'd publicly rip apart both of them in front of the whole world on the internet and being stuck with that idea and being afraid to ask me for help with this chick.</p><p></p><p>So it was something that got out of hand, she had more investment in it than he did. He was acutally getting very annoyed with her at this point but he still isn't off the hook about letting it happen in the first place and hiding things from me. He did, of his own free will, remove everything I asked him to. Including her.</p><p></p><p>So yeah, we're not par completely but it's still good and will get great again. I'm pretty surprised and proud of myself for handling it actually very well. Exhausted today, we spent a lot of time together last night, even did stuff together we haven't done in a long time and stopped doing for some time like simply chatting about nothing in particular and what not. We completely unplugged from the computers last night except for him to remove what he needed to. We're going out to lunch today with our youngest and doing some shopping.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mamaof5, post: 401053"] You guys made me cry. I did confront him. We spent 6 hours together working it out and he told all I already knew and rest I didn't. No physical, all emotional. It started in Yoville as a gaming thing with no meaning and was a situation that got out of hand. The OW knows about how I know. All his Yoville and IMVU friends know I know and he's not going to be playing Yoville for a long time and I let him keep the IMVU with major ground rules and I'm joining IMVU to take up an interest in his interests. I was civil, surprisingly calm and didn't cry when I confronted him. I have this complex about crying in front of people, I can't stand doing it. So all isn't up to par because we have a lot of work to do but we're actually good right now. He got rid of her off of everything and anyone else I felt I didn't want on there, even got rid of the two FB accounts that we're fake (got rid of all the pictures, friends, everything first because he himself said you can only de-activate it but you can get rid of everything before you de-activate so he volunteered to do that on his own - shows me he is set in repairing the damage and working on it). It started in Yoville on FB as a way to play the game with no meaning at all (still wrong, an under ground gaming set of unsaid rules about people looking for "virtual girlfriend\boyfriend Yoville characters, like creating a pretend community) and just got out of hand. I did see in key logger that when he says he got fed up with her taking it too far he would either ignore her advances or tell her to behave and stop it. He told the truth and I believe him that it was something that just got away on him and he didn't know how to fix the problem. He hid it because he didn't know how I would react. I've reacted badly to this kind of drama before in the past when a woman tried to step into "my territory" as the saying goes.. that time he wasn't at fault, that young lady was ...well...prowling and he'd told her he was married with kids several times and not interested. I went on the war path and even called her boyfriend and told him what she was doing and ripped her a new one badly so yeah I can see him being scared that I'd publicly rip apart both of them in front of the whole world on the internet and being stuck with that idea and being afraid to ask me for help with this chick. So it was something that got out of hand, she had more investment in it than he did. He was acutally getting very annoyed with her at this point but he still isn't off the hook about letting it happen in the first place and hiding things from me. He did, of his own free will, remove everything I asked him to. Including her. So yeah, we're not par completely but it's still good and will get great again. I'm pretty surprised and proud of myself for handling it actually very well. Exhausted today, we spent a lot of time together last night, even did stuff together we haven't done in a long time and stopped doing for some time like simply chatting about nothing in particular and what not. We completely unplugged from the computers last night except for him to remove what he needed to. We're going out to lunch today with our youngest and doing some shopping. [/QUOTE]
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