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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 687373" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>Thank you all. As the days pass there are so many emotions. I don't know if one can ever prepare for this. I miss my husband very much. I knew him for 43 years, married for 36.</p><p>The shock and intensity of his illness and the lack of care in the hospital haunts me. It seems the doctors missed the mark in so many ways. Perhaps the end result would have been the same.....who knows? Because there were so many discrepancies and delays in treatment, I asked for an autopsy and will retrieve the medical report. Interviewed with a malpractice firm and they have decided to review the records based on my recollections. It was a horrific way to die. Hubs suffered so. They should have never released him when they did, and when we ended up back in the ER, should have placed him in ICU, as the admitting Doctor said they would. I write this to you all so that if you or your loved one is in the hospital, please be aware of what could happen.Hubs ended up severely edemic in his feet, legs, abdomen, hands. We followed up with his cardiologist who only prescribed dieretics, even though I emphasized hubs weakness, insomnia due to shortness of breath and overall debilitating illness. I think his Doctor should have readmitted him. He ended up with bilateral pulmonary edema. They let him gasp for breath all day, infused him with lasix, neglected to check his urine output, and eventually put him in ICU and intubated him. They said his kidneys failed and had me sign for dialysis, then didn't put him on the machine until <em>five hours later</em>. This is just the tip of the iceberg. Needless to say, my faith in hospitals and Doctors has been sorely tested. I am not a vindictive person, but realized that if I just go to patient advocacy with my concerns, nothing will come of it. I don't want anyone else to go through this. I understand that hospitals are busy and everyone is overburdened. But, when a loved one is struggling to breath and the nurse is typing away at her computer and casually asks " Do you think he has anxiety?" something is very wrong. I can remember repeating "Please help my husband, can't you help him?"</p><p>I am plagued by this. All they could reply was that his oxygen levels were sufficient. When I asked the Doctor why they let my hubs suffer so, he said that they try to let the body heal itself first, before using machines.</p><p> I am going one day at a time, trying to pick up all of the loose ends, and swallow the guilt that I did not turn into a screaming maniac to get someone to help my husband. We trusted the Doctors too much. </p><p>If you end up in a frustrating situation in the hospital, <em>trust your instincts. </em></p><p>Nights are the most difficult when the house is quiet and I am left with my thoughts. </p><p>I am most thankful for your kindness in reaching out to me. </p><p>We will be okay, with Gods grace and help and time.....</p><p>(((Hugs)))</p><p>Leaf</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 687373, member: 19522"] Thank you all. As the days pass there are so many emotions. I don't know if one can ever prepare for this. I miss my husband very much. I knew him for 43 years, married for 36. The shock and intensity of his illness and the lack of care in the hospital haunts me. It seems the doctors missed the mark in so many ways. Perhaps the end result would have been the same.....who knows? Because there were so many discrepancies and delays in treatment, I asked for an autopsy and will retrieve the medical report. Interviewed with a malpractice firm and they have decided to review the records based on my recollections. It was a horrific way to die. Hubs suffered so. They should have never released him when they did, and when we ended up back in the ER, should have placed him in ICU, as the admitting Doctor said they would. I write this to you all so that if you or your loved one is in the hospital, please be aware of what could happen.Hubs ended up severely edemic in his feet, legs, abdomen, hands. We followed up with his cardiologist who only prescribed dieretics, even though I emphasized hubs weakness, insomnia due to shortness of breath and overall debilitating illness. I think his Doctor should have readmitted him. He ended up with bilateral pulmonary edema. They let him gasp for breath all day, infused him with lasix, neglected to check his urine output, and eventually put him in ICU and intubated him. They said his kidneys failed and had me sign for dialysis, then didn't put him on the machine until [I]five hours later[/I]. This is just the tip of the iceberg. Needless to say, my faith in hospitals and Doctors has been sorely tested. I am not a vindictive person, but realized that if I just go to patient advocacy with my concerns, nothing will come of it. I don't want anyone else to go through this. I understand that hospitals are busy and everyone is overburdened. But, when a loved one is struggling to breath and the nurse is typing away at her computer and casually asks " Do you think he has anxiety?" something is very wrong. I can remember repeating "Please help my husband, can't you help him?" I am plagued by this. All they could reply was that his oxygen levels were sufficient. When I asked the Doctor why they let my hubs suffer so, he said that they try to let the body heal itself first, before using machines. I am going one day at a time, trying to pick up all of the loose ends, and swallow the guilt that I did not turn into a screaming maniac to get someone to help my husband. We trusted the Doctors too much. If you end up in a frustrating situation in the hospital, [I]trust your instincts. [/I] Nights are the most difficult when the house is quiet and I am left with my thoughts. I am most thankful for your kindness in reaching out to me. We will be okay, with Gods grace and help and time..... (((Hugs))) Leaf [/QUOTE]
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