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<blockquote data-quote="newstart" data-source="post: 758604" data-attributes="member: 22416"><p>cog·ni·tive dis·so·nance</p><p></p><p>Cognitive dissonance refers to a situation involving conflicting attitudes, beliefs or behaviors. This produces a feeling of mental discomfort leading to an alteration in one of the attitudes, beliefs or behaviors to reduce the discomfort and restore balance. </p><p></p><p>This is why I am so stressed out. I want to think my 38 year old daughter is a good person but the evidence says she is not.. She is not a good person, good people do not lie constantly, steal, set you up to fall, be very cruel to you, or want you to die.</p><p>The evidence is she is awful, my heart tries to tell me she is good. That is why I have so much distress. I want to believe one thing and the truth and evidence tell me something else, I could pretend that it is not so but that would be dangerous.</p><p></p><p>Now I need my heart to line up with the truth and facts. I refer back to the movie' We need to talk about Kevin' I saw so much of my daughter in that movie, The being nice to her dad and deeply ugly to me, the talking down, the sarcastic tone.</p><p>I am working at getting my heart and mind to line up so I can quit getting slapped over and over again. I want to so much believe that my daughter wishes good for me but the truth is she wants me dead. It is hard to wrap my mind around this type of evil but the sooner I know this as truth the better I can try to move ahead.</p><p></p><p>I am so deeply sad.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="newstart, post: 758604, member: 22416"] cog·ni·tive dis·so·nance Cognitive dissonance refers to a situation involving conflicting attitudes, beliefs or behaviors. This produces a feeling of mental discomfort leading to an alteration in one of the attitudes, beliefs or behaviors to reduce the discomfort and restore balance. This is why I am so stressed out. I want to think my 38 year old daughter is a good person but the evidence says she is not.. She is not a good person, good people do not lie constantly, steal, set you up to fall, be very cruel to you, or want you to die. The evidence is she is awful, my heart tries to tell me she is good. That is why I have so much distress. I want to believe one thing and the truth and evidence tell me something else, I could pretend that it is not so but that would be dangerous. Now I need my heart to line up with the truth and facts. I refer back to the movie' We need to talk about Kevin' I saw so much of my daughter in that movie, The being nice to her dad and deeply ugly to me, the talking down, the sarcastic tone. I am working at getting my heart and mind to line up so I can quit getting slapped over and over again. I want to so much believe that my daughter wishes good for me but the truth is she wants me dead. It is hard to wrap my mind around this type of evil but the sooner I know this as truth the better I can try to move ahead. I am so deeply sad. [/QUOTE]
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