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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 705170" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Was the $700 a credit card bill from shopping at stores, or from charging tuition? These are different things.</p><p></p><p>I thought your daughter was older for some reason, but just re-read your original post. Chances are the university can hold you responsible for whatever tuition she has accrued up to now. Your daughter would be a dependent and would get financial aid based upon her income AND your income for the rest of her degree unless she takes a year or two off and gets residency and establishes herself as an adult. In some states even that isn't enough - you must be a certain age to not be a dependent, or you must have no parents left alive and no living relatives who have been your guardians. Otherwise, your financial aid is given based on their income and your income. Even with this being the reality, hundreds of thousands of students, US and International, get degrees here each year. </p><p></p><p>The University in my town has one of the highest percentage of international students per capita of any university in the US. I know a LOT of students from other countries, current and former, who have had to deal with financial aid issues. Many of them had zero help from home, not even a package of cookies now and then, because their families simply could not afford it. Most of these students not only paid for their own educations with hard work, frugal living, and student loans, they also sent money home regularly. So I am sorry if your daughter won't be able to live the high life in the city, she CAN still go to school IF SHE WANTS TO, even if you don't help. I guarantee that most of her classmates are seen as dependents by the school, and most don't have parents who are helping them. If she tells you differently, she is simply not telling the truth. Yes, you can find groups of wealthy students who have parents who pay for everything and then some, but these are NOT the generaly rule. They are the exception. The rest of the students get jobs and work to pay for what they want. Including their education, their food, and their shelter. </p><p></p><p>Take it from someone who has seen universities up close and personal for 30 years - if she tells you otherwise, she is lying to you. I think she has problems, but as an adult you cannot force her to get help. YOu can only cut the funds so that the party stops and she doesn't ruin your life along with her own. Help is there if she wants it, and she is smart enough and resourceful enough to find it. Or to ask you to help her find it..</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 705170, member: 1233"] Was the $700 a credit card bill from shopping at stores, or from charging tuition? These are different things. I thought your daughter was older for some reason, but just re-read your original post. Chances are the university can hold you responsible for whatever tuition she has accrued up to now. Your daughter would be a dependent and would get financial aid based upon her income AND your income for the rest of her degree unless she takes a year or two off and gets residency and establishes herself as an adult. In some states even that isn't enough - you must be a certain age to not be a dependent, or you must have no parents left alive and no living relatives who have been your guardians. Otherwise, your financial aid is given based on their income and your income. Even with this being the reality, hundreds of thousands of students, US and International, get degrees here each year. The University in my town has one of the highest percentage of international students per capita of any university in the US. I know a LOT of students from other countries, current and former, who have had to deal with financial aid issues. Many of them had zero help from home, not even a package of cookies now and then, because their families simply could not afford it. Most of these students not only paid for their own educations with hard work, frugal living, and student loans, they also sent money home regularly. So I am sorry if your daughter won't be able to live the high life in the city, she CAN still go to school IF SHE WANTS TO, even if you don't help. I guarantee that most of her classmates are seen as dependents by the school, and most don't have parents who are helping them. If she tells you differently, she is simply not telling the truth. Yes, you can find groups of wealthy students who have parents who pay for everything and then some, but these are NOT the generaly rule. They are the exception. The rest of the students get jobs and work to pay for what they want. Including their education, their food, and their shelter. Take it from someone who has seen universities up close and personal for 30 years - if she tells you otherwise, she is lying to you. I think she has problems, but as an adult you cannot force her to get help. YOu can only cut the funds so that the party stops and she doesn't ruin your life along with her own. Help is there if she wants it, and she is smart enough and resourceful enough to find it. Or to ask you to help her find it.. [/QUOTE]
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