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<blockquote data-quote="totoro" data-source="post: 286200" data-attributes="member: 3155"><p>I don't know about a 15 yo boy and I am kind of thankful! LOL</p><p>But one thing I think applies to most of our kids or at least applies to K is that if something truly helps her. Meaning keeps her stable, or keeps her happy. </p><p>Then I never use this as a punishment. I will let her do this thing whenever she wants, like her computer time or swimming... for example. </p><p>For us though K is not a manipulative child, so when she is screaming that she will not brush her teeth or will not stop doing something, it is usually because she is overstimmed or has not eaten or needs to change her activity or something is going on in her head and she is unable to verbalize to us what chaos or feeling is going on in there.</p><p>I think whether were talking BiPolar (BP) or Autism Spectrum this can happen. The overwhelming feelings can cause them to lose it. </p><p>So if she has something that can help her keep it together, I am more than willing to let her have her this. </p><p></p><p>For us though she is only "entertained" for short periods of time. LOL so I am more than happy if she can find something! </p><p></p><p>I think it depends on his maturity level? K is very immature. So I have to go step by step and then give her reminders. </p><p>She gets distracted by more than 2 step directions, so I have to watch it. </p><p>Like Terry said I also have to watch my words, she has a very high IQ so she over thinks everything I say and takes it literally. </p><p>I have to walk her through the schedule even though she anticipates it and her internal clock tells her what to expect. But she needs me to still direct her on almost everything. Even the teeth most times. </p><p></p><p>We do a lot of museums and mellow hikes. Swimming has been our saving grace, it is non-competitive and safe for K. She is in adaptive PE at school, but swimming for her is calming and fun. </p><p>I take her and explore nature a lot, snakes, bugs etc... we bring the binoculars and camera. </p><p>I have to find the joy in the things that she finds joy in, so that she will have a connection with someone. Yesterday we spent 2 hours off and on playing legos. </p><p>Luckily I honestly do enjoy them. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p>Also she is not high functioning enough to be away from us for very long yet. </p><p></p><p>I wish I knew more about a 15 yo boy... how long is the camp? Is he excited about it? </p><p>I think if this is something that he can handle, that it could be a tremendous boost to self esteem and his overall person. What a cool thing to get to do! </p><p>I really hope he can handle it and that he has a great experience. </p><p>Is the camp aware of his issues? </p><p>It really sounds like you are doing a great job!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="totoro, post: 286200, member: 3155"] I don't know about a 15 yo boy and I am kind of thankful! LOL But one thing I think applies to most of our kids or at least applies to K is that if something truly helps her. Meaning keeps her stable, or keeps her happy. Then I never use this as a punishment. I will let her do this thing whenever she wants, like her computer time or swimming... for example. For us though K is not a manipulative child, so when she is screaming that she will not brush her teeth or will not stop doing something, it is usually because she is overstimmed or has not eaten or needs to change her activity or something is going on in her head and she is unable to verbalize to us what chaos or feeling is going on in there. I think whether were talking BiPolar (BP) or Autism Spectrum this can happen. The overwhelming feelings can cause them to lose it. So if she has something that can help her keep it together, I am more than willing to let her have her this. For us though she is only "entertained" for short periods of time. LOL so I am more than happy if she can find something! I think it depends on his maturity level? K is very immature. So I have to go step by step and then give her reminders. She gets distracted by more than 2 step directions, so I have to watch it. Like Terry said I also have to watch my words, she has a very high IQ so she over thinks everything I say and takes it literally. I have to walk her through the schedule even though she anticipates it and her internal clock tells her what to expect. But she needs me to still direct her on almost everything. Even the teeth most times. We do a lot of museums and mellow hikes. Swimming has been our saving grace, it is non-competitive and safe for K. She is in adaptive PE at school, but swimming for her is calming and fun. I take her and explore nature a lot, snakes, bugs etc... we bring the binoculars and camera. I have to find the joy in the things that she finds joy in, so that she will have a connection with someone. Yesterday we spent 2 hours off and on playing legos. Luckily I honestly do enjoy them. :) Also she is not high functioning enough to be away from us for very long yet. I wish I knew more about a 15 yo boy... how long is the camp? Is he excited about it? I think if this is something that he can handle, that it could be a tremendous boost to self esteem and his overall person. What a cool thing to get to do! I really hope he can handle it and that he has a great experience. Is the camp aware of his issues? It really sounds like you are doing a great job! [/QUOTE]
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