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<blockquote data-quote="rlsnights" data-source="post: 315018" data-attributes="member: 7948"><p>I have a very sly little difficult child 3 these days. She is very clever at getting around limitations we set for her. For example I discovered she was using the computer at a friend's house to access her one allowed social networking site (Club Penguin for heaven's sake) when that privilege had been taken away temporarily. So I yanked the account entirely.</p><p></p><p>I can shut things down to the point that she has virtually no internet access but I think if I do that it will just drive her in particular to take up more of these kinds of sneaky tactics. She doesn't have a phone and isn't going to get one and she's mad about that. So she borrowed one from a friend at school during school time and then was caught using it during class to text her friend's older male cousin whom she has never met. She lost all internet privileges when I discovered she had given out our phone number to kids she met online and was making phone calls to them when she was left home alone. Got the phone password protected now.</p><p></p><p>We of course can see the direction this is going but she is so deep into her self-righteous rebellion that she won't believe her behavior is unsafe. That's what really worries me. So I think I need to be devious about monitoring her while appearing to give her some latitude with e-mail and a limited internet access. That way I know what she's doing because she's doing it here and not somewhere else. Does that make sense?</p><p></p><p>I don't actually think she's doing stuff like pulling up porn or arranging to meet people she meets online. I think she's mostly just chatting with other kids in a pretty typical way. But I don't really know. Since I never in a million years thought she would give out our phone number (how MANY times had I drilled into her head that this just wasn't safe) I feel like I need to take precautions that assume she is going to continue this pattern. Better safe than sorry you know? </p><p></p><p>If I have her passwords (cause you know she'll access things from home as long as she thinks she isn't being monitored) then I can monitor her activity when she's away from home if I feel the need, especially her e-mail. Otherwise I have to be really heavy handed all the time and I think that will drive her into more and bigger acts of rebellion.</p><p></p><p>I don't particularly like the idea of spying on my kids. On the other hand they can get into really bad trouble very quickly and my kids don't in my humble opinion have the judgement they need to be safe. Since my daughter has shown that she thinks she knows better than me and will flaunt our rules when it suits her I feel like she's left me no choice but to spy on her or give her no access at all.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="rlsnights, post: 315018, member: 7948"] I have a very sly little difficult child 3 these days. She is very clever at getting around limitations we set for her. For example I discovered she was using the computer at a friend's house to access her one allowed social networking site (Club Penguin for heaven's sake) when that privilege had been taken away temporarily. So I yanked the account entirely. I can shut things down to the point that she has virtually no internet access but I think if I do that it will just drive her in particular to take up more of these kinds of sneaky tactics. She doesn't have a phone and isn't going to get one and she's mad about that. So she borrowed one from a friend at school during school time and then was caught using it during class to text her friend's older male cousin whom she has never met. She lost all internet privileges when I discovered she had given out our phone number to kids she met online and was making phone calls to them when she was left home alone. Got the phone password protected now. We of course can see the direction this is going but she is so deep into her self-righteous rebellion that she won't believe her behavior is unsafe. That's what really worries me. So I think I need to be devious about monitoring her while appearing to give her some latitude with e-mail and a limited internet access. That way I know what she's doing because she's doing it here and not somewhere else. Does that make sense? I don't actually think she's doing stuff like pulling up porn or arranging to meet people she meets online. I think she's mostly just chatting with other kids in a pretty typical way. But I don't really know. Since I never in a million years thought she would give out our phone number (how MANY times had I drilled into her head that this just wasn't safe) I feel like I need to take precautions that assume she is going to continue this pattern. Better safe than sorry you know? If I have her passwords (cause you know she'll access things from home as long as she thinks she isn't being monitored) then I can monitor her activity when she's away from home if I feel the need, especially her e-mail. Otherwise I have to be really heavy handed all the time and I think that will drive her into more and bigger acts of rebellion. I don't particularly like the idea of spying on my kids. On the other hand they can get into really bad trouble very quickly and my kids don't in my humble opinion have the judgement they need to be safe. Since my daughter has shown that she thinks she knows better than me and will flaunt our rules when it suits her I feel like she's left me no choice but to spy on her or give her no access at all. [/QUOTE]
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