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<blockquote data-quote="zoo_keeper" data-source="post: 453141" data-attributes="member: 12188"><p>Hi everyone. I read your responses but have just now found the time to reply. Life has been hectic to say the least.</p><p> I think you guys make a great point about how he might not know how to express himself. And then all his emotions get bottled up and he gets overwhelmed with them. difficult child 1 has previously worked with an inhome therapist to rank his moods, mainly his anger and frustration, from 1-10 with 10 being the worst. This past week we have been trying that with difficult child 2 and its working somewhat to at least know where he's coming from. Next week is his birthday and we plan to surprise him by taking him to a local breeder and allowing him to pick out his very own puppy. He is going to be thru the moon. The main concern husband and I have is that he will demand to take more than one puppy home (which has happened before with pets and is the reason he has three turtles<img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/groooansmileyf.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":groan:" title="groan :groan:" data-shortname=":groan:" />which he takes care of very responsibly). I have finally found a pediactric psychiatrist in our new area with a great reputation that is covered thru husband's new insurance and have made appointments for difficult child 1-3. The appointments are in mid september and I am going to try and stay open minded about the possibility of medicating difficult child 2 again if she suggests it. </p><p></p><p>Also, husband and I have a very important "school week" coming up. difficult child 1 and difficult child 3 are getting their 3 hour long iep evaluations done tomorrow morning. We have already filled out a bunch of different forms and questionaires and I have prepared a flash drive with digital scans of all of my school, medical and therapist records for them to view. I was pleasantly surprised that it was so easy to get these evaluations in this new school district. When I went to register everyone the official I spoke with told me it was mandatory for all children with diagnoses and taking medication to be evaluated upon entering the school district. Wish our last school district thought like that...</p><p></p><p>As for difficult child 2, we have a meeting set up for wednesday (with an assistant Special Education director of the district and his new school's psychologist) to discuss them wanting to hold him back. We vehemently oppose this and plan to go fully prepared. There is just no benefit to this as he was already held back in 1st grade and in his current iep he is pulled out of the regular room into a Special Education room for the majority of the day anyways. We think that his current iep will be completely valid until the first new iep meeting, does anyone know if this is a correct statement? We've had the reading specialist we worked with send a letter certified return receipt explaining his view of difficult child 2's reading and academic issues and opposing the current districts plans. He will also be available over the phone during the meeting. We have not told difficult child 2 that the new school district does not want to promote him to the 4th grade because he will be devastated. He is already almost two years older than his peers. It will be a huge stab to his already low self esteem and I fear he will just completely shut down academically. We are really hoping this new school district will see sense as they have been very reasonable regarding difficult child 1 and difficult child 3. As his mom I just can't let this happen and husband and I are willing to hire a special education lawyer if need be. We just don't want to open hostilities if we don't have to. </p><p></p><p>Thanks for all your brilliant feedback. I do read your posts almost daily and admire all you strong warrior parents!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="zoo_keeper, post: 453141, member: 12188"] Hi everyone. I read your responses but have just now found the time to reply. Life has been hectic to say the least. I think you guys make a great point about how he might not know how to express himself. And then all his emotions get bottled up and he gets overwhelmed with them. difficult child 1 has previously worked with an inhome therapist to rank his moods, mainly his anger and frustration, from 1-10 with 10 being the worst. This past week we have been trying that with difficult child 2 and its working somewhat to at least know where he's coming from. Next week is his birthday and we plan to surprise him by taking him to a local breeder and allowing him to pick out his very own puppy. He is going to be thru the moon. The main concern husband and I have is that he will demand to take more than one puppy home (which has happened before with pets and is the reason he has three turtles:groooansmileyf:which he takes care of very responsibly). I have finally found a pediactric psychiatrist in our new area with a great reputation that is covered thru husband's new insurance and have made appointments for difficult child 1-3. The appointments are in mid september and I am going to try and stay open minded about the possibility of medicating difficult child 2 again if she suggests it. Also, husband and I have a very important "school week" coming up. difficult child 1 and difficult child 3 are getting their 3 hour long iep evaluations done tomorrow morning. We have already filled out a bunch of different forms and questionaires and I have prepared a flash drive with digital scans of all of my school, medical and therapist records for them to view. I was pleasantly surprised that it was so easy to get these evaluations in this new school district. When I went to register everyone the official I spoke with told me it was mandatory for all children with diagnoses and taking medication to be evaluated upon entering the school district. Wish our last school district thought like that... As for difficult child 2, we have a meeting set up for wednesday (with an assistant Special Education director of the district and his new school's psychologist) to discuss them wanting to hold him back. We vehemently oppose this and plan to go fully prepared. There is just no benefit to this as he was already held back in 1st grade and in his current iep he is pulled out of the regular room into a Special Education room for the majority of the day anyways. We think that his current iep will be completely valid until the first new iep meeting, does anyone know if this is a correct statement? We've had the reading specialist we worked with send a letter certified return receipt explaining his view of difficult child 2's reading and academic issues and opposing the current districts plans. He will also be available over the phone during the meeting. We have not told difficult child 2 that the new school district does not want to promote him to the 4th grade because he will be devastated. He is already almost two years older than his peers. It will be a huge stab to his already low self esteem and I fear he will just completely shut down academically. We are really hoping this new school district will see sense as they have been very reasonable regarding difficult child 1 and difficult child 3. As his mom I just can't let this happen and husband and I are willing to hire a special education lawyer if need be. We just don't want to open hostilities if we don't have to. Thanks for all your brilliant feedback. I do read your posts almost daily and admire all you strong warrior parents! [/QUOTE]
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