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<blockquote data-quote="Tentimesaround" data-source="post: 656404" data-attributes="member: 18633"><p>Thoughts running around in my head today causing so much self doubt and draining my strength…did I make the right decisions with my Difficult Child, am I doing the right things now etc etc. Most days I am fairly strong and confident in the decisions I am making and secure in the ones I have made in the past. Yesterday, I was introduced to a woman who’s Difficult Child was on the same path as mine. Her daughter recently completed treatment and is doing very well. As the mother and I talked it became clearer and clearer that our stories were very strongly related. The more were spoke the more we realized how intertwined our children’s lives were. As it turns out our daughters knew each other, and as her daughter left the home of a local drug dealer to receive treatment, mine took her place and moved in. At the time, I knew that he was a bad person but I had no idea how bad. I tried everything possible to get her home and away from this horrible situation. But today, I am filled with sadness and self doubt. I ask myself is there more I could have done to save her from this person and this life? Reality and common sense tell me there isn’t and that if it wasn’t this drug dealer it would have been another. Although I really found it helpful to speak to another parent going through a very similar situation it has put me on a downward spiral, questioning each decision and step I have made. I am trying to “live and let go” but is the right decision? Should I be more involved in my Difficult Child’s life? Should I be working toward getting her into treatment? I had finally come to terms with letting her live her own life and facing the consequences of her actions. I have distanced myself from my daughter giving trying to give her room to figure this out. I love her so much and let her know that often. I try not to rescue, enable or interfere. I have put my own health and well being ahead of hers and I am trying to re build my own life. Speaking to this mom was helpful to me but it also stirred up emotions I did not expect. Is it up to me to encourage her to get help or is it not my business? I am just at such a loss today L</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tentimesaround, post: 656404, member: 18633"] Thoughts running around in my head today causing so much self doubt and draining my strength…did I make the right decisions with my Difficult Child, am I doing the right things now etc etc. Most days I am fairly strong and confident in the decisions I am making and secure in the ones I have made in the past. Yesterday, I was introduced to a woman who’s Difficult Child was on the same path as mine. Her daughter recently completed treatment and is doing very well. As the mother and I talked it became clearer and clearer that our stories were very strongly related. The more were spoke the more we realized how intertwined our children’s lives were. As it turns out our daughters knew each other, and as her daughter left the home of a local drug dealer to receive treatment, mine took her place and moved in. At the time, I knew that he was a bad person but I had no idea how bad. I tried everything possible to get her home and away from this horrible situation. But today, I am filled with sadness and self doubt. I ask myself is there more I could have done to save her from this person and this life? Reality and common sense tell me there isn’t and that if it wasn’t this drug dealer it would have been another. Although I really found it helpful to speak to another parent going through a very similar situation it has put me on a downward spiral, questioning each decision and step I have made. I am trying to “live and let go” but is the right decision? Should I be more involved in my Difficult Child’s life? Should I be working toward getting her into treatment? I had finally come to terms with letting her live her own life and facing the consequences of her actions. I have distanced myself from my daughter giving trying to give her room to figure this out. I love her so much and let her know that often. I try not to rescue, enable or interfere. I have put my own health and well being ahead of hers and I am trying to re build my own life. Speaking to this mom was helpful to me but it also stirred up emotions I did not expect. Is it up to me to encourage her to get help or is it not my business? I am just at such a loss today L [/QUOTE]
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