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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 276444" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>Thanks, Susie. difficult child talks to me in a respectful way, pretty much. I mean he doesn't talk down to me or sound angry at all. He says very nice things. But if I try to talk about anything he asks me to please just listen to him, then he goes right on with the rambling. That being said, he blows off any advice or reminder to respect my wishes. For instance, I don't allow him to curse and I keep my cursing out at home. We both occasionally slip with a "da**" if we drop something on a toe and I let that slide, but don't allow filthy language or cursing as a general rule. He can get by with it while incarcerated so he goes right on doing it. difficult child mailed home a list of games he has heard about that he wants to get when he gets out and asked me to keep it for him. Half the things on the list are things he knows I would never let him have. </p><p></p><p>To throw out a little vent about the system people- the parole officer got copies of all difficult child's evaluation stuff they did during processing. This was educational and psychiatric and recommended treatment (behavior and mental health) supposedly. I can't get copies of this stuff. They seriously view the parent the same as they do a "subject person" who just has to take what they decide. difficult child has more right to know what he's dealing with than I do. difficult child can refuse to take his medications. No one is reviewing his medications. They have a psychiatrist who does nothing but continue to write rx's difficult child has been on. </p><p></p><p>Then, I found out that the sd difficult child had been in (the regular public school) that was supposed to do his triennial review starting in Jan but never did only sent a form to the Department of Juvenile Justice that said I refused to sign agreement for the re-evaluation at the meeting in Jan. I did not sign it at the meeting, that is true, but I did sign it and mail it back with an attachment about a week later. They didn't forward that info. I had asked in my attached letter that a more extensive evaluation be done because their proposed one was not enough to determine how the disability effected the education and what accommodations were necessary. The sd never did any. Then, they also sent Department of Juvenile Justice a letter stating that they determined that difficult child was still qualified for an IEP in March. Yes I want him on an IEP- but wwhat team decided this and why wasn't I informed, much less invited to the meeting?</p><p></p><p>I had sent copies of all this- with my attached letter and so forth to Department of Juvenile Justice processing but, as typical, the stuff I sent never get looked at so this lady telling me about the sd stuff seemed to have no idea what my input was- or that I had any input. She was under the impression that I had just refused it. They all are like that- they don't care about what the parent has to say or contribute then will be the first ones to claim the parent witheld info.</p><p></p><p>This is just typical of people in the system around here- they want to completely cut the parent out of the loop and just do what they want. That would be fine if they really had the kid's best interest in mind and kept up with everythhing but they don't. The left hand never knows what the right hand is doing.</p><p></p><p>There's supposed to be a meeting next week about difficult child's "treatment" plan. Mind you, their idea of mental health treatment is pure behavior mod- nothing about anxiety, depression, etc. Nothing about bipolar or a mood disorder, yet they are keeping him on medications for this stuff with no one evaluation'ing it. This meeting should prove interesting.</p><p></p><p>One thing that appears to have worked out well, at least so far- that show cause complaint that the GAL filed against me seems to have disappeared. (That will probably jinx it back into an issue. LOL!)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 276444, member: 3699"] Thanks, Susie. difficult child talks to me in a respectful way, pretty much. I mean he doesn't talk down to me or sound angry at all. He says very nice things. But if I try to talk about anything he asks me to please just listen to him, then he goes right on with the rambling. That being said, he blows off any advice or reminder to respect my wishes. For instance, I don't allow him to curse and I keep my cursing out at home. We both occasionally slip with a "da**" if we drop something on a toe and I let that slide, but don't allow filthy language or cursing as a general rule. He can get by with it while incarcerated so he goes right on doing it. difficult child mailed home a list of games he has heard about that he wants to get when he gets out and asked me to keep it for him. Half the things on the list are things he knows I would never let him have. To throw out a little vent about the system people- the parole officer got copies of all difficult child's evaluation stuff they did during processing. This was educational and psychiatric and recommended treatment (behavior and mental health) supposedly. I can't get copies of this stuff. They seriously view the parent the same as they do a "subject person" who just has to take what they decide. difficult child has more right to know what he's dealing with than I do. difficult child can refuse to take his medications. No one is reviewing his medications. They have a psychiatrist who does nothing but continue to write rx's difficult child has been on. Then, I found out that the sd difficult child had been in (the regular public school) that was supposed to do his triennial review starting in Jan but never did only sent a form to the Department of Juvenile Justice that said I refused to sign agreement for the re-evaluation at the meeting in Jan. I did not sign it at the meeting, that is true, but I did sign it and mail it back with an attachment about a week later. They didn't forward that info. I had asked in my attached letter that a more extensive evaluation be done because their proposed one was not enough to determine how the disability effected the education and what accommodations were necessary. The sd never did any. Then, they also sent Department of Juvenile Justice a letter stating that they determined that difficult child was still qualified for an IEP in March. Yes I want him on an IEP- but wwhat team decided this and why wasn't I informed, much less invited to the meeting? I had sent copies of all this- with my attached letter and so forth to Department of Juvenile Justice processing but, as typical, the stuff I sent never get looked at so this lady telling me about the sd stuff seemed to have no idea what my input was- or that I had any input. She was under the impression that I had just refused it. They all are like that- they don't care about what the parent has to say or contribute then will be the first ones to claim the parent witheld info. This is just typical of people in the system around here- they want to completely cut the parent out of the loop and just do what they want. That would be fine if they really had the kid's best interest in mind and kept up with everythhing but they don't. The left hand never knows what the right hand is doing. There's supposed to be a meeting next week about difficult child's "treatment" plan. Mind you, their idea of mental health treatment is pure behavior mod- nothing about anxiety, depression, etc. Nothing about bipolar or a mood disorder, yet they are keeping him on medications for this stuff with no one evaluation'ing it. This meeting should prove interesting. One thing that appears to have worked out well, at least so far- that show cause complaint that the GAL filed against me seems to have disappeared. (That will probably jinx it back into an issue. LOL!) [/QUOTE]
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