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<blockquote data-quote="maril" data-source="post: 276484" data-attributes="member: 5937"><p>klmno: I would like to add my support; many hugs to you. I can imagine it would be very difficult to have to face this on your own as a single parent. It would be disheartening to realize that the system doesn't respect your input and that your son observes this; it undermines you. </p><p> </p><p>"<em>There's supposed to be a meeting next week about difficult child's "treatment" plan. Mind you, their idea of mental health treatment is pure behavior mod- nothing about anxiety, depression, etc. Nothing about bipolar or a mood disorder, yet they are keeping him on medications for this stuff with no one evaluation'ing it. This meeting should prove interesting." </em>Can you push at this meeting to get a comprehensive plan for aftercare that will support what<em> you as his parent</em> would like to do to help keep things on an even keel and to have a safety net for you for when he comes home? </p><p> </p><p>I am not in a position to advise. I would just like to share that a lot of the "what if's" ran through my mind, too, when my difficult child was still inpatient (recently discharged), but, so far, the aftercare plan and support he receives seem to be going along fairly well; plus he is now willing to comply/would never have been prior to hospitalization (he does not want to face re-entering a facility; we have a PO to back us up with the aftercare, too; so far, so good). My difficult child does not have the out of control raging and threatening behavior now that he is substance-free; however, one of his diagnosis is mood disorder, he is not presently medicated, and we have to be watchful/on our toes as we were before (examples -- prior to hospitalization, either locked up or had hidden kitchen knives, money, house and car keys, hunting guns, etc., and then continued with the lockup once he came home) even though there have been no issues/he has been stable since arriving at home. </p><p> </p><p>My son is pretty close to 18 and has been reminded by counselors, police officers, and us how it will be a different game legally once he is 18; he also has been told we can send him on his merry way and will no longer be responsible for him. I realize you still have a while yet to go until your son turns 18 and you are responsible for him legally; you have a lot to deal with as a parent.</p><p> </p><p>I hope someone out there in the system will step up and be more supportive of you. Hang in there.</p><p> </p><p>I also would like to add that information you had given me earlier this year, support, and advice <em>have been very helpful, and thank you for reaching out to me!</em> I wish I could be as helpful for you but am not greatly experienced. Take care.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="maril, post: 276484, member: 5937"] klmno: I would like to add my support; many hugs to you. I can imagine it would be very difficult to have to face this on your own as a single parent. It would be disheartening to realize that the system doesn't respect your input and that your son observes this; it undermines you. "[I]There's supposed to be a meeting next week about difficult child's "treatment" plan. Mind you, their idea of mental health treatment is pure behavior mod- nothing about anxiety, depression, etc. Nothing about bipolar or a mood disorder, yet they are keeping him on medications for this stuff with no one evaluation'ing it. This meeting should prove interesting." [/I]Can you push at this meeting to get a comprehensive plan for aftercare that will support what[I] you as his parent[/I] would like to do to help keep things on an even keel and to have a safety net for you for when he comes home? I am not in a position to advise. I would just like to share that a lot of the "what if's" ran through my mind, too, when my difficult child was still inpatient (recently discharged), but, so far, the aftercare plan and support he receives seem to be going along fairly well; plus he is now willing to comply/would never have been prior to hospitalization (he does not want to face re-entering a facility; we have a PO to back us up with the aftercare, too; so far, so good). My difficult child does not have the out of control raging and threatening behavior now that he is substance-free; however, one of his diagnosis is mood disorder, he is not presently medicated, and we have to be watchful/on our toes as we were before (examples -- prior to hospitalization, either locked up or had hidden kitchen knives, money, house and car keys, hunting guns, etc., and then continued with the lockup once he came home) even though there have been no issues/he has been stable since arriving at home. My son is pretty close to 18 and has been reminded by counselors, police officers, and us how it will be a different game legally once he is 18; he also has been told we can send him on his merry way and will no longer be responsible for him. I realize you still have a while yet to go until your son turns 18 and you are responsible for him legally; you have a lot to deal with as a parent. I hope someone out there in the system will step up and be more supportive of you. Hang in there. I also would like to add that information you had given me earlier this year, support, and advice [I]have been very helpful, and thank you for reaching out to me![/I] I wish I could be as helpful for you but am not greatly experienced. Take care. [/QUOTE]
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