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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 276531" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>You're absolutely right. They claim they have objectives. For the most part the objective is to keep kids off the streets and prevent them from injuring eah other severely while they are inmates.</p><p> </p><p>They don't care that Johnny was molested when he was 5 and 9 and 12. They don't care that Matt slept in the back seat of a vacant car. They have no interest in rehabilitating a family in distress. That is not their job.</p><p> </p><p>They take what the Court gives them and do the best job they can do with the resources they have. If you anticipate anything more from them you are going to be disappointed. </p><p> </p><p>If you are lucky, your son will learn some positive lessons while he is there. The main thing he will likely learn is that he does not like being locked up in a cell, a yard, a room. An appreciation for freedom is a common positive result. If you are really lucky he will dream of coming home and living peacefully with his Mom and his dog.</p><p> </p><p>You have got to find the right therapist to help you come to peace with your life. It's not what you wanted it to be. Many of us still can't believe we are living nontraditional lives. in my humble opinion you need to have specialized help to overcome the fear inspired by your victimization. I know they have specially trained victim advocates. If they do anything to prepare your son then that is great. If they do nothing? Well, either you have found a way for you all to try family living or you decide you can't do it. Either decision is premature now....it's all too raw for both of you.</p><p> </p><p>I can not imagine how hard it is. You are a smart cookie (with a few crumbled edges at the moment, lol) and deep in your heart you <strong>know </strong>"they" are not going to do what you want them to do. The ball is in your court. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 276531, member: 35"] You're absolutely right. They claim they have objectives. For the most part the objective is to keep kids off the streets and prevent them from injuring eah other severely while they are inmates. They don't care that Johnny was molested when he was 5 and 9 and 12. They don't care that Matt slept in the back seat of a vacant car. They have no interest in rehabilitating a family in distress. That is not their job. They take what the Court gives them and do the best job they can do with the resources they have. If you anticipate anything more from them you are going to be disappointed. If you are lucky, your son will learn some positive lessons while he is there. The main thing he will likely learn is that he does not like being locked up in a cell, a yard, a room. An appreciation for freedom is a common positive result. If you are really lucky he will dream of coming home and living peacefully with his Mom and his dog. You have got to find the right therapist to help you come to peace with your life. It's not what you wanted it to be. Many of us still can't believe we are living nontraditional lives. in my humble opinion you need to have specialized help to overcome the fear inspired by your victimization. I know they have specially trained victim advocates. If they do anything to prepare your son then that is great. If they do nothing? Well, either you have found a way for you all to try family living or you decide you can't do it. Either decision is premature now....it's all too raw for both of you. I can not imagine how hard it is. You are a smart cookie (with a few crumbled edges at the moment, lol) and deep in your heart you [B]know [/B]"they" are not going to do what you want them to do. The ball is in your court. DDD [/QUOTE]
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