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<blockquote data-quote="wldinnh" data-source="post: 67480" data-attributes="member: 3763"><p>What has helped with my SO is to just be very clear that his role is my SO. My child has a mother (me) and a father (my ex), so there is no need for my SO to have a parenting role with her. He is there to support me in my parenting efforts, not be a parent to her too. There are times when I'm at my wits end and I want to say to him "please help", but I don't because it only has caused further conflicts for us when he intervenes. If he does make a negative comment now and again about her, I don't respond, and that's the end of it. It's so hard to feel pulled between the love you have for your SO and the love you have for your child. Many a professional has told me that kids are worst with their moms. Unfair, but it seems to be true. Tell your SO that if regular discipline worked for your difficult child, you'd be using it happily. But until you find out what exactly is going on with your difficult child and how you can best manage him, it's going to be a difficult time. Let her know you'd appreciate her support and encouragement to pursue answers for your son, but her criticism has to stop because it clearly isn't making anyone happy. Don't beat yourself up. You're dealing with an extremely challenging child and you're seeking answers and you're doing the best you can.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="wldinnh, post: 67480, member: 3763"] What has helped with my SO is to just be very clear that his role is my SO. My child has a mother (me) and a father (my ex), so there is no need for my SO to have a parenting role with her. He is there to support me in my parenting efforts, not be a parent to her too. There are times when I'm at my wits end and I want to say to him "please help", but I don't because it only has caused further conflicts for us when he intervenes. If he does make a negative comment now and again about her, I don't respond, and that's the end of it. It's so hard to feel pulled between the love you have for your SO and the love you have for your child. Many a professional has told me that kids are worst with their moms. Unfair, but it seems to be true. Tell your SO that if regular discipline worked for your difficult child, you'd be using it happily. But until you find out what exactly is going on with your difficult child and how you can best manage him, it's going to be a difficult time. Let her know you'd appreciate her support and encouragement to pursue answers for your son, but her criticism has to stop because it clearly isn't making anyone happy. Don't beat yourself up. You're dealing with an extremely challenging child and you're seeking answers and you're doing the best you can. [/QUOTE]
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