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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 353219" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>What can you do?</p><p></p><p>You're already doing a lot, but I have a few more ideas (if you haven't already tried them and had to discard them).</p><p></p><p>First - call the credit card people and let them know that the card was used fraudulently, and that it was obviously accepted by stores despite it not being signed and still having the sticker, "call to activate" on it. As far as I can see, the store that accepted the card in this state should be the one to lose out. There are safeguards in place for a reason, and a store that ignores the right procedures should be the one to be out of pocket.</p><p></p><p>Second - arrange for ALL future credit cards to be left for you at the bank for collection. Have it written in that you will show your ID and sign the card in front of a teller. And that the card is not to be issued to you without these conditions, or you will not be held responsible for any purchases. Discuss this with the bank first, then confirm it in writing, in some way that there is an obvious paper trail. Registered mail, or email these days I think should suffice. Alternatively - get a PO box at least for bank correspondence, and do not let your daughter collect the mail for you.</p><p></p><p>Third - get a picture of your daughter on a sheet of paper with her name and other identifying details, take it around the stores she uses and give them a copy. Only give them information that is Public Domain (such as her criminal record and past community service for this sort of thing). Make it clear - they are not to give her credit in any way. Preferably they should ban her and call you if she attempts to purchase anything, because chances are, it will be with stolen money or stolen credit, and it WILL come back to bite them - banning her will be less trouble for them and less expense. If you can't do this legally, then don't. But you need to go to these lengths.</p><p></p><p>As for what to say to the psychiatrist - tell hem you're frustrated, fed up and if she keeps this up, you won't be able to afford to pay him so he'd better get his finger out and think of something, or he's lost her as a patient because you will have to cancel your health insurance because you have your daughter's out of control fraudulent spending to pay for.</p><p></p><p>See if THAT pushes his buttons.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 353219, member: 1991"] What can you do? You're already doing a lot, but I have a few more ideas (if you haven't already tried them and had to discard them). First - call the credit card people and let them know that the card was used fraudulently, and that it was obviously accepted by stores despite it not being signed and still having the sticker, "call to activate" on it. As far as I can see, the store that accepted the card in this state should be the one to lose out. There are safeguards in place for a reason, and a store that ignores the right procedures should be the one to be out of pocket. Second - arrange for ALL future credit cards to be left for you at the bank for collection. Have it written in that you will show your ID and sign the card in front of a teller. And that the card is not to be issued to you without these conditions, or you will not be held responsible for any purchases. Discuss this with the bank first, then confirm it in writing, in some way that there is an obvious paper trail. Registered mail, or email these days I think should suffice. Alternatively - get a PO box at least for bank correspondence, and do not let your daughter collect the mail for you. Third - get a picture of your daughter on a sheet of paper with her name and other identifying details, take it around the stores she uses and give them a copy. Only give them information that is Public Domain (such as her criminal record and past community service for this sort of thing). Make it clear - they are not to give her credit in any way. Preferably they should ban her and call you if she attempts to purchase anything, because chances are, it will be with stolen money or stolen credit, and it WILL come back to bite them - banning her will be less trouble for them and less expense. If you can't do this legally, then don't. But you need to go to these lengths. As for what to say to the psychiatrist - tell hem you're frustrated, fed up and if she keeps this up, you won't be able to afford to pay him so he'd better get his finger out and think of something, or he's lost her as a patient because you will have to cancel your health insurance because you have your daughter's out of control fraudulent spending to pay for. See if THAT pushes his buttons. Marg [/QUOTE]
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