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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 353379" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>It is a nice idea to go to the bank and tell then not to issue any more cards. The problem is that there are so many banks issuing cards that it would be impossible to go to them or even send a letter and have it get to the right place. To many "you are pre-approved" letters that make it so easy for identity thieves to get cards in your name. </p><p></p><p>You really MUST get a PO box for all of your mail. She could even use one of those letters for a cash advance with one of your checks to get money that would come out of YOUR account two weeks after she does it. at that point it will be a major mess. Here the cash advance places are staffed by 18 and 19yos, or so it seems. (husband works the college basketball and baseball games with some of the young ladies from the 2 cash advance places in our town.)</p><p></p><p>Only use your office address if your daughter NEVER goes to your office. If you get the mail there make SURE she cannot EVER go to your desk or where you keep personal items. If you choose a PO box, be SURE that the key is NEVER on a set you loan to your daughter. Rarely would you ever see a postal employee when getting mail from a PO box, so sending a letter keeping her out of the box won't do much good. </p><p></p><p>I think you need to at least look into identity theft charges. Does she still get violent with you the way she did when you confronted her about the theft last time? If so then you MUST call the police each time. You can insist that she cannot live with you if you feel you are in danger. She can go to a group home, youth shelter or foster home. NOT ideal but you must make safety the first priority.</p><p></p><p>I am sorry she is choosing this path in life. All you can do is protect yourself, lock up ALL precious items because she will steal them to sell or pawn if she isn't already doing this, and continue to press charges where appropriate.</p><p></p><p>Hugs for your hurting mommy heart.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 353379, member: 1233"] It is a nice idea to go to the bank and tell then not to issue any more cards. The problem is that there are so many banks issuing cards that it would be impossible to go to them or even send a letter and have it get to the right place. To many "you are pre-approved" letters that make it so easy for identity thieves to get cards in your name. You really MUST get a PO box for all of your mail. She could even use one of those letters for a cash advance with one of your checks to get money that would come out of YOUR account two weeks after she does it. at that point it will be a major mess. Here the cash advance places are staffed by 18 and 19yos, or so it seems. (husband works the college basketball and baseball games with some of the young ladies from the 2 cash advance places in our town.) Only use your office address if your daughter NEVER goes to your office. If you get the mail there make SURE she cannot EVER go to your desk or where you keep personal items. If you choose a PO box, be SURE that the key is NEVER on a set you loan to your daughter. Rarely would you ever see a postal employee when getting mail from a PO box, so sending a letter keeping her out of the box won't do much good. I think you need to at least look into identity theft charges. Does she still get violent with you the way she did when you confronted her about the theft last time? If so then you MUST call the police each time. You can insist that she cannot live with you if you feel you are in danger. She can go to a group home, youth shelter or foster home. NOT ideal but you must make safety the first priority. I am sorry she is choosing this path in life. All you can do is protect yourself, lock up ALL precious items because she will steal them to sell or pawn if she isn't already doing this, and continue to press charges where appropriate. Hugs for your hurting mommy heart. [/QUOTE]
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