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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 628213" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>I'm not quite sure what kind of attachment disorders and treatment you are talking about. There are two quite different kinds to my knowledge.</p><p></p><p>Other is how DSM and ICD and medical community talk about it. Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) is a disorder that kid can develop if early life is very adverse. It's not usually diagnosed after age 5 or 6 or so, because the normal development hides the diagnostic criteria. (Basically, not bonding with anyone or not having preferred caregiver.) It is usually treated with very sensitive and emphatic parenting. And according to studies, if kids get to stable and loving environments, they recover from it very well. Many use attachment parenting (Sears type) to treat it. In attachment theory there are also less dire attachment issues described as different attachment patterns such as secure, insecure and disorganized. I did attachment parenting with my boys, especially my easy child when they were young and I also have a dear friend who adopted institutionalised pre-school/kindergarten aged siblings from Russia, whom were diagnosed with Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). They were advised to use very emphatic and 'soft' child rearing methods and kids recovered very well. They had also some other issues (other has quite clear Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS)-issues for example) and some rather bad behavioural challenges, but now as teens they are doing really well.</p><p></p><p>Then there is this other definition of attachment disorder that isn't really supported by medical community and they diagnose Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) very differently. Their list of symptoms is a mile long and has about every possible bad behaviour child can have. And sometimes lack of. Some also use very controversial treatment methods that have led to deaths and horrible abuse of many children. With these types of treatments (holding therapy, very punitive parenting etc.) you have to be very careful. It is very easy to engage in battle of wills with the child and become very insensitive and start to see everything they do as manipulation, deliberate etc.</p><p></p><p>However, which ever it is, if you have tried consistent consequences and they are not working, I do agree it is time to try something else. My kids didn't have attachment issues, but both, especially difficult child but also easy child, learned best through of course modelling but also positive reinforcement. I used lots of ideas of latest science when it comes to training animals. I didn't use clicker, but I got lots of ideas from operant conditioning and how you use positive reinforcement in animals. Reward charts tended to be little too long term and demanding for my difficult child, but buying their weekly candy week before the day they got it and adding them piece by piece to glass jar for a reward for wanted behaviour worked well. I also tried intermittent reinforcement and that too seemed to work (unfortunately I too used it more often accidentally to reinforce unwanted behaviours, like usually happens with kids), but that of course can be little difficult do in practise with kids (well, to do in purpose to reinforce wanted behaviour tends to be difficult, it is extremely easy, almost inevitable to do so accidentally and reinforce negative behaviour.).</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 628213, member: 14557"] I'm not quite sure what kind of attachment disorders and treatment you are talking about. There are two quite different kinds to my knowledge. Other is how DSM and ICD and medical community talk about it. Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) is a disorder that kid can develop if early life is very adverse. It's not usually diagnosed after age 5 or 6 or so, because the normal development hides the diagnostic criteria. (Basically, not bonding with anyone or not having preferred caregiver.) It is usually treated with very sensitive and emphatic parenting. And according to studies, if kids get to stable and loving environments, they recover from it very well. Many use attachment parenting (Sears type) to treat it. In attachment theory there are also less dire attachment issues described as different attachment patterns such as secure, insecure and disorganized. I did attachment parenting with my boys, especially my easy child when they were young and I also have a dear friend who adopted institutionalised pre-school/kindergarten aged siblings from Russia, whom were diagnosed with Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). They were advised to use very emphatic and 'soft' child rearing methods and kids recovered very well. They had also some other issues (other has quite clear Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS)-issues for example) and some rather bad behavioural challenges, but now as teens they are doing really well. Then there is this other definition of attachment disorder that isn't really supported by medical community and they diagnose Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) very differently. Their list of symptoms is a mile long and has about every possible bad behaviour child can have. And sometimes lack of. Some also use very controversial treatment methods that have led to deaths and horrible abuse of many children. With these types of treatments (holding therapy, very punitive parenting etc.) you have to be very careful. It is very easy to engage in battle of wills with the child and become very insensitive and start to see everything they do as manipulation, deliberate etc. However, which ever it is, if you have tried consistent consequences and they are not working, I do agree it is time to try something else. My kids didn't have attachment issues, but both, especially difficult child but also easy child, learned best through of course modelling but also positive reinforcement. I used lots of ideas of latest science when it comes to training animals. I didn't use clicker, but I got lots of ideas from operant conditioning and how you use positive reinforcement in animals. Reward charts tended to be little too long term and demanding for my difficult child, but buying their weekly candy week before the day they got it and adding them piece by piece to glass jar for a reward for wanted behaviour worked well. I also tried intermittent reinforcement and that too seemed to work (unfortunately I too used it more often accidentally to reinforce unwanted behaviours, like usually happens with kids), but that of course can be little difficult do in practise with kids (well, to do in purpose to reinforce wanted behaviour tends to be difficult, it is extremely easy, almost inevitable to do so accidentally and reinforce negative behaviour.). [/QUOTE]
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