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<blockquote data-quote="DaisyFace" data-source="post: 228782" data-attributes="member: 6546"><p>Hello Wiped Out--</p><p> </p><p>I am so sorry that you are having a difficult day...</p><p> </p><p>My difficult child is exactly the same way...so disrespectful...so cruel...and yet she thinks she's being funny. And there really are no consequences that can change her basic attitude about it (at least none that I have found).</p><p> </p><p>Recently though, we have had some success with a new medication (Celexa) and by having a counselor work with the whole family. difficult child started the counseling session by turning on the tears and complaining that her Mom (me) doesn't spend enough time with her and isn't loving enough with her and we don't have a good relationship. Understandably, the counselor was very concerned and asked difficult child <em>"What</em> <em>do you need from your Mom in order for things to be better?".</em> When put on the spot...difficult child didn't really have an answer....so the counselor asked me<em> "What do you need from difficult child in order to have a better relationship?"</em> </p><p> </p><p>My answer was that she could start by not calling me a "B****".</p><p> </p><p>For whatever reason, this was an eye-opener for difficult child....and over the next few sessions the counselor helped difficult child make the connection that when you are nasty to someone they don't usually respond in a loving way.</p><p> </p><p>It's a small step...but it is a start...and I have not been called a name (to my face, anyway) since. She did call her Dad a "jerk"...but that is a big improvement from "a**wipe"...so it feels like progress.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DaisyFace, post: 228782, member: 6546"] Hello Wiped Out-- I am so sorry that you are having a difficult day... My difficult child is exactly the same way...so disrespectful...so cruel...and yet she thinks she's being funny. And there really are no consequences that can change her basic attitude about it (at least none that I have found). Recently though, we have had some success with a new medication (Celexa) and by having a counselor work with the whole family. difficult child started the counseling session by turning on the tears and complaining that her Mom (me) doesn't spend enough time with her and isn't loving enough with her and we don't have a good relationship. Understandably, the counselor was very concerned and asked difficult child [I]"What[/I] [I]do you need from your Mom in order for things to be better?".[/I] When put on the spot...difficult child didn't really have an answer....so the counselor asked me[I] "What do you need from difficult child in order to have a better relationship?"[/I] My answer was that she could start by not calling me a "B****". For whatever reason, this was an eye-opener for difficult child....and over the next few sessions the counselor helped difficult child make the connection that when you are nasty to someone they don't usually respond in a loving way. It's a small step...but it is a start...and I have not been called a name (to my face, anyway) since. She did call her Dad a "jerk"...but that is a big improvement from "a**wipe"...so it feels like progress. [/QUOTE]
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